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Des Moines, Iowa 50314 Senior Polk County 2008 Forest Ave, Des Moines IA 50314 Southside Library 1111 Porter Ave. Des Moines, Iowa 50315 The Great Frame Up 5515 Mills Civic Parkway Suite #150, West Des Moines, IA 50266 Urbandale Public Library 3520 86th Street, Urbandale, IA 50322 Urbandale Chamber of Commerce 2830 100th Street, Suite 110, Urbandale, IA 50322 West Des Moines Library 4000 Mills Clive Pkwy, West Des Moines, Iowa 50365 Slow Down Coffee Co. 3613 6th Avenue, Des Moines, Iowa 50313 The Playhouse 831 42nd Street, Des Moines, Iowa 50312 The Zone of Comfort - Life Balance Center 3829 71st Street B-1, Urbandale, Iowa 50322 Ruby B's Kitchen 4121 Fleur Drive, Des Moines, Iowa 50321 ׉ 7cassandra://6TsPRuXxxPzdw6XOReBfbFZFSnL-fKWzBafKpfIq2vUK`dd_3׉ESUMMARY 4 EDITORS MESSAGE 6 MORTGAGE LOANS: WHICH ONE DO I CHOOSE 10 COURAGE TRUTHS: PERMISSION TO GRIEVE 6 14 22 *PHOTO CREDIT TO PEXELS AND FREEPIK 3 14 UNDERSTANDING IMPOSTER SYNDROME: OVERCOMING SELF- DOUBT AND EMBRACING SUCCESS 18 IT’S HONORING THE ELDERLY MONTH 22 SMALL BUSINESS OWNERS NEED ACCESS TO FUNDING 25 ATTAIN/OUT OF THE BOX INITIATIVE 28 VOLUNTEERING MAY PROTECT YOUR BRAIN HEALTH & MEMORY 30 LIFE INTO EXISTENCE dd_4dd_3(בCט(u׉׉ 7cassandra://QIKRnNDgzbtPFk9kVvvEm8ozvPUyImCpWndy1jx3ESU`iq׉ 7cassandra://f6jgOrfYBAKl56J_s4R9G6MaNumhJXo_rQPbkNiOYD4W`׉ 7cassandra://n98xhSIBhdZBnfENN56Er7oPQb7Mo4h2sfT57H9fVyE?S`׉ 7cassandra://8GyJKEjLyNXJmc_zXGmly0I6MpKRoFizgokeooggBEgM͠ dd_͡׉E GET THE URBAN EXPERIENCE This message was written in August 2019. I’ve added more quotes and I pray they are a blessing to you. This month I struggled with my message, so I decided to leave you with some quotes that I’ve made up and some that you’ve heard before. I hope these help in whatever you may be going through in life. THERE IS NO COMPETITION, ONLY PURPOSE – This has been a quote that I’ve held onto for the last year. I know that my life has a purpose and because of that purpose no one or anything can stand in my way. I’m competing against no one. I’m living out my purpose and enjoying every moment of it! GET COMFORTABLE WITH BEING UNCOMFORTABLE – I currently live in this space and through most of my life, I’ve been comfortable with the people, spaces, and circumstances. I’m not doing things that I don’t always believe I’m qualified to do. I have conversations with people who challenge my thinking, and changes have been made in my life that make me see a different point of view. I now embrace uncomfortableness. LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE – We only get one chance in life. There are no do-overs and when life comes to an end, that’s it. I’ve decided to live my best life which is different for each one of us. I know what I’m gifted at, and I know what I’m supposed to be doing in this season in my life, and everything I do, I want to do it at my BEST. LOVE WHILE YOU HAVE THE CHANCE – There are many different definitions of love based on your life circumstances. The world defines it one way, the church defines it another, people around you have their take on it. I’ve made the decision to open my heart to others and do my best to love people where they are. For me, I want to love people no matter what. That includes my significant other, kids, parents, friends, acquaintances, enemies, business partners, etc. These four letters have messed with me my entire life. Growing up, love has changed me. In my late 30’s I decided I wanted to love people no matter what. No matter if they like me, hate me, are jealous of me, are sick and tired of me, or want to see me do great things. Since I have made that request, I’ve had some rough people in my life. I don’t give up on people easily. I listen to understand and do all I can to love them if they're having the best or the worst day………. I choose LOVE! WHEN YOU FALL DOWN, GET UP – I have fallen down so much that I shouldn’t even want to get back up, but I believe when we fall don’t, we normally look up anyways? I will admit when I fall, I don’t immediately get back up, but I can’t stay down forever. I remember going to church one Sunday and I literally fell down to the ground. I was in the middle of the street, and I stayed down for a little bit. I looked up to the sky and after a few minutes, I got back up. Life is just the same way. You will hurt someone’s feelings, end a relationship, lose a job, and many other life circumstances can happen, but don’t let it keep you down. Get up! You can make it! ׉ 7cassandra://n98xhSIBhdZBnfENN56Er7oPQb7Mo4h2sfT57H9fVyE?S`dd_5׉ELISTEN TO OTHERS – One of the great gifts you can give someone is to listen to them. Think of the last time you listened to someone without interrupting them. I do a lot of listening because it’s important for me to hear people. I believe everyone is looking for someone to listen to and that’s it. Try listening to them.. You will learn so much about a person when you do. LOVE YOUR ENEMIES – This has been one of the most challenging for me. In life there are people who are not rooting for you, in fact they are waiting for you to fall. They are not cheering for you. I have learned over the years to love those who have been against me. It is not easy to show love when you want to show revenge, but I believe this commandment from God will bless your soul if you continue to show kindness to anyone who continues to be against you. REFLECTION REVITALIZES AND REJUVENATES – Take moments to think things over as the song says when I look back over my life and think thing over, I can truly say that I’ve been blessed, I’ve got a testimony. Reflection is a great way to get life figured out. I take time to reflect often but take a deeper reflection in November and December each year. Taking the time to reflect deeply gives me the opportunity to prepare and plan for the new year or make corrections and fix things currently happening in my personal life, business, and friendships. LIFE IS A JOURNEY – The journey in life will bring you through everything. Your path might start smoothly, and you feel everything is going right, and then your journey encounters a bump in the road that might have you stagnant for a while, but the journey continues. Everyone’s journey is different. I desire to help people on my journey, love people on my journey, support people on my journey, and live life like it could be the last day. I hope you all are enjoying your journey in life and that you are living your best life. BLESSINGS, DWANA BRADLEY EDITOR-IN-CHIEF 5 dd_6dd_5(בCט(u׉׉ 7cassandra://7QQXHvEOONUo-0LeDTYkXqQGhwvCLx9wy9wsHaTu6WU.`iq׉ 7cassandra://603yOPv0gA-ACWkUtBBFSQlNjtbQzcoqAXE2DGggQDI`׉ 7cassandra://dS514iPtuXbr5Ek-cVQ9hKqS_K46tOgAZQr_dWLFiVoG`׉ 7cassandra://S7urp8bT63uZgp1GgcbdnCUwSbWTZ4yPUQMH6GpHatYG^͠ de_ͤ׉EMortgage Loans: Which One Do I Choose? NEIGHBORHOOD FINANCE CORPORATION Written By: Bridgett Robinson D&I Mortgage Loan Originator and Outreach Coordinator at Neighborhood Finance Corporation ׉ 7cassandra://dS514iPtuXbr5Ek-cVQ9hKqS_K46tOgAZQr_dWLFiVoG`dd_7׉E When wanting to buy a home, always check out your options for the type of mortgage that will fit your financial situation, at both the inception of the loan, as well as after the loan is closed and you are actively living in the home. Lenders across the country offer different products as it pertains to a mortgage and you want to do your research before settling on anything in writing. Not all loan products are treated equal and not all loan products are a one size fits all. TYPES OF MORTGAGES: CONVENTIONAL LOANS A conventional loan is a mortgage loan that is not backed by a government agency. These loans sometimes provide some of the same benefits as the others and are most common. These loans are backed by mortgage lenders, like banks and other financial institutions. (Examples: Conforming or nonconforming, jumbos, portfolios, adjustable rate loans) CONS OF CONVENTIONAL MORTGAGES: • You have to pay PMI if the down payment is less than 20%. (Not with NFC, as we do not apply private mortgage insurance) • You’ll have to meet qualifications that may require a higher minimum credit score of 620 and lower debt-to-income. PROS OF CONVENTIONAL MORTGAGES: • Borrowers who can pay at least 3% – 5% down and have a minimum FICO® Score of 620 can typically benefit from conventional loans. • Borrowers with a debt-to-income of 50% or less can typically benefit from conventional loans. ADJUSTABLE-RATE MORTGAGE (ARM) An ARM is an Adjustable Rate Mortgage and unlike fixed rate mortgages that have an interest rate that remains the same for the life of the loan, the interest rate on an ARM will change periodically. The initial interest rate of an ARM is lower than that of a fixed-rate mortgage, also known as a “teaser rate” or “introductory rate”. PROS OF ADJUSTABLE-RATE MORTGAGES:: • They offer lower interest rates for the initial introductory period. • The initial low monthly payments allow for a more flexible budget and the opportunity to build up savings. CONS OF ADJUSTABLE-RATE MORTGAGES: • If the rate increases, it can dramatically increase your monthly payments once your introductory period is over. • It’s more difficult to predict your financial standing if interest rates and mortgage payments fluctuate. FIXED-RATE MORTGAGE A fixed-rate mortgage is a loan option with a specific interest rate for the entire term of the loan. The interest rate does not change and the borrower’s interest and principal payments will remain the same each month PROS OF FIXED-RATE MORTGAGES: • Monthly principal and interest payments don’t change over the life of your loan, making it easier to plan a budget. • Your loan can fully amortize over the term of the mortgage. 7 dd_8dd_7(בCט(u׉׉ 7cassandra://eCwDo4ron02bRLZ5KtIEqPyPiSnzDycpbvGF4ynSJm0n`iq׉ 7cassandra://Lzrox7KBLe5EJSEuaI2FFn9eimIgMRWsSmKIDXL85WM(`׉ 7cassandra://mn5ZA4aC8PD343VxlhbhKfaeGhEvOcJS3WlLY-LVBYwZ`׉ 7cassandra://QIiavuVs7sYZ7iELvTCzK5EYzAG-xDZO4M_fZ-9mUlo\M͠ de_ͩנde_ͧ3̚9׉Hhttps://www.empowermoney.org/Gׁ ׁ rנde_ͨ̐9׉Hhttps://bw4hl.org/Gׁ ׁ rנdf_ͱ̇9ׁHhttps://bw4hl.orgׁ ׁ Јנdf_Ͱy9ׁHmailto:info@bw4hl.orgׁ ׁ Јנdf_ͯhD9ׁHhttp://WWW.REDCROSSBLOOD.ORGׁ ׁ Јנdf_ͮ9ׁH(mailto:brobinson@neighborhoodfinance.orgׁ ׁ Јנdf_ͭ`X9ׁH*http://www.neighborhoodfinance.org/journeyׁ ׁ Јנdf_ͬ9ׁH#http://neighborhoodfinance.org/downׁ ׁ Ј׉ECONS OF FIXED-RATE MORTGAGES: • You’ll pay a higher rate than the introductory rate you could get on an adjustable-rate mortgage. • You may end up paying more in interest over time if the rates are high. VA LOANS These loans are specific to providing government insured or guaranteed mortgage programs to veterans, service members and eligible surviving spouses. These loans typically won’t have any down payment required, lower interest rates and is a lifetime benefit. FHA These loans are government-backed insured by the Federal Housing Administration. These usually requires a lower down payment and credit score minimums than other programs. They allow you to borrow up to a certain percentage of a home’s value depending on the credit score. These loans are popular among first time home buyers. CONS OF GOVERNMENT-BACKED LOANS: • You must meet specific criteria to qualify • Many types of government-backed loans have insurance premiums (also called funding fees) that are required upfront, which can result in higher borrowing costs PROS OF GOVERNMENT-BACKED LOANS • Those who have low cash savings might benefit from a government-backed loan • Those with lower credit could benefit from a government-backed loan As you can see, there are different mortgage loan products that can offer a customer different things. It is truly a wise step to ask questions of the lenders you are working with to see what type of loan is the best fit for you. Having a better grip of the different loan types and what they do and don’t offer will help you in the long run to know what type of mortgage transaction you are getting into. Focus On: Program Benefits: Services available to all Polk residents regardless of income Free confidential financial counseling sessions with a certified professional Assistance in navigating complex financial challenges In person and phone appointments available in English and Spanish Savings Plan for the future and prepare for unforeseen expenses Banking Gain access to safe and affordable banking services Debt Credit Pay down debt and develop budgeting tools Schedule an Appointment Today! Call (515) 697-7700 or online at EmpowerMoney.org Establish and improve credit with professional guidance ׉ 7cassandra://mn5ZA4aC8PD343VxlhbhKfaeGhEvOcJS3WlLY-LVBYwZ`dd_;׉EJOURNEY TO HOMEOWNERSHIP AMBASSADOR & CHAMPION PROGRAMS The Journey to Homeownership Ambassador and Champion program is creating many strong relationships with non-profits, churches and educational institutions to make sure that we meet people where they are at. The Polk County Financial Empowerment Center at The Evelyn K. Davis Center For Working Families was one of the first organizations to sign up as a Journey to Homeownership Ambassador. Between July 2022 and June 6th 2023, they have reduced nonmortgage debt in the amount of $1,177,543 and increased savings by $114,466! Be sure to check our website for J2H classes scheduled at The Polk County Financial Empowerment Center at The Evelyn K. Davis Center For Working Families! neighborhoodfinance.org/down-payment/j2h-classes-and-events www.neighborhoodfinance.org/journey-to-homeownership If your organization is interested in becoming an Ambassador or Champion, please contact Bridgett Robinson NMLS # 2244064 NFC Diversity & Inclusion Mortgage Loan Originator and Outreach Coordinator brobinson@neighborhoodfinance.org 515-273-1373 NMLS# 8943 The SICKLE CELL Blood Drive WE APPROACH THIS HOLISTICALLY: physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, financially, and with a justice lens. OUR COALITION Black Donors are needed. Register to donate through the QR Code provided. SICKLE CELL BLOOD DRIVE CALL 1-800-REDCROSS TO MAKE AN APPOINTMENT or got to WWW.REDCROSSBLOOD.ORG CONTACT US FOR MORE INFORMATION: 515-219-4300| info@bw4hl.org | https://bw4hl.org The American Red Cross is offering an initial screening test to provide donors with valuable insight into their sickle cell trait status. The Red Cross is not testing donations to diagnose sickle cell. SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 23, 2023 | 9:30AM TO 1:30PM CORINTHIAN BAPTIST CHURCH | 814 SCHOOL ST DSM, IA 9 dd_<dd_;(בCט(u׉׉ 7cassandra://llNOwSZFslrvTKdCI4oUGyzwEJ6yuYlYrJ6IDxxlhVM`iq׉ 7cassandra://_4Cx6WwGKQAdYSj35IgJOChyjyY0fWJBs-IBtcZGRfk`׉ 7cassandra://p4nD6wohs-EcgaI2M5juGwOTrHbGgg8ChgGDkzdupikB`׉ 7cassandra://eyEX_mIUe8ecnfsvypEisKrg9nGos8ei9CZCOIMXJ28C͠ df_Ͳ׉E(Courageous TR UTHS PERMISSION TO GRIEVE ׉ 7cassandra://p4nD6wohs-EcgaI2M5juGwOTrHbGgg8ChgGDkzdupikB`dd_=׉EcGrief is a natural response to loss1 . so impatient with our Black sisters’ natural response to loss when they are able to escape violent relationships? Response is a physical reaction to stimulus or a situation2. Loss is the fact or process of losing something or someone3. When a woman’s intimate partner dies, she has a loss of that relationship. When a woman’s intimate partner and her separate - regardless of the reason - she also has a loss. Why then do we seek to silence a Black woman’s natural response to the loss of a relationship from an abusive partner by shaming her for it? On August 30th every year, it is National Grief Awareness Day. This month, I want to give you permission to grieve and permission to allow others to grieve. Notice again the definition of loss, Beloved. How many times during a given day on a lesser level do we experience loss? We lose time in the morning because one of our kids won’t get up on time and we run late to something else. Loss - of time. A small one, granted, but one nonetheless. We lose one out of our favorite pair of socks after the laundry. Another small loss, but happening on the same day, two losses that day. We lose our job, a friend. Larger losses. Ones from which most of us rebound at some point, however, all losses described cause some sort of physical reaction - a response. Most people won’t criticize you for an irritable response to losing a sock from a unique pair. Most people won’t criticize you for a disappointed or even depressed response to losing a job or a friend. Why? Because it’s relatable. We feel like your response makes sense because our response would be similar. No one criticizes someone for a despondent response to the death of a loved one - especially an intimate partner. Why? Because it’s supposed to be the most important relationship in life and it is something that one usually does not cause and therefore usually causes sympathetic responses from others. Why? Because if we had to deal with that level of loss we would want people to show us compassion, sympathy, support. Let’s get back to the initial question then. If loss is something that simulates compassion from most humans for one another, in our community why are we Let’s look at the heart of what most of us believe, whether we’ve ever admitted this or not. We are afraid; yes, afraid. We are afraid that if she is focused on the loss, she will want to make the loss end and will go back to the dangerous relationship. Many of us saw firsthand the danger she was in, some of us have been there with her through it and have thought we might lose her at different times, some of us have even been a safe space for her to run to throughout this violence. We want to know if we are being “stupid” for being supportive because what if she’s just gonna go right back to him anyway? So we verbally shame4 her, stop speaking to/engaging with her, tell others not to engage with her, etc., thinking that if we stop the natural response to loss we will prevent her from going back to the violence. However, we’ve learned that loss causes a natural response to it and that response is grief. Grief can be accompanied by self blame5, loneliness6, desperation7, anger8, and just plain sadness9. Can we ever truly shame someone out of an emotion? No, Beloved. We can shame someone into hiding emotions, however. When we hide our emotions that accompany grief, that can be the most dangerous thing for the DV (domestic violence) survivor. Why? If she cannot share her emotions with safe people, she will begin to re-engage with the abuser who is probably already hoovering10 her. And just like the vortex created by a vacuum, if she cannot honestly talk through her emotions with us - her community, her family, her friends - for a moment she will find false acceptance and compassion with the abuser. And since abuse is about the abuser keeping power and control, and since her drifting further from his reach initially indicates a possible threat to that for him, she is now in danger of an escalation of his violence11. 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