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if your family bond is fractured, it will be restored. It’s in my prayers
that if you are holding a grudge and haven’t forgiven someone, the
chains that are holding you down will be broken.
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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
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ello, Urban Experience Readers,
blessings. I hope you and your loved
ones have a safe, happy, and blessed
Thanksgiving. If you don’t celebrate
Thanksgiving, I pray you are able to
reflect on the things God has blessed
you with, including the breath in your
lungs and another day to be in the land
of the living. In my previous article, in
case you missed it, I talked about sex, including sexual abuse
and pornography. This month, I want to talk about domestic
violence. Domestic violence stems across all races and ethnic
backgrounds as well as social, financial, successful, and religious
backgrounds. The man or woman making $250 million dollars
per year can be just as or more abusive as the man or woman
making $25,000 per year. People may think this only happens
in poor communities, which is not true. If you are reading this
article, whether you are a Christian or atheist, rich or poor,
Black or White, male or female, straight or gay–this article is
important and relevant for you to read. If you are currently in
a domestic violent relationship, please know there is help. You
can begin by calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at
1-800-799-7233.
It is easy for someone who has never experienced domestic
violence to say to someone who is in a domestic violence
relationship to just leave–but this is easier said than done.
There are many reasons why it is hard for someone to leave
a violent relationship. The victim may be afraid and they may
believe that if they leave their spouse/partner, they will come
after them and do more harm, possibly ending their life.
Unfortunately, there are television shows and movies around
these horrible acts. Other reasons for not leaving an abusive
relationship include financial dependence, especially if the
abuser is the breadwinner. It also may be hard to leave because
of the empty promises, also known as the honeymoon phase,
where the abuser promises to never do it again. The victim may
even feel sorry for the abuser and may feel they did something
to deserve the punishment. Some stay in the relationship
because they believe that the abuser will change. I mentioned
in a previous article that domestic violence is a mental,
psychological, emotional, and even spiritual matter. If the
individual is not willing to address this problem head-on and
get the help they need, the problem will continue. An individual
who shows domestic violence behavior will not change until
they are honest with themselves and understand that they
are being abusive. If you have a new relationship and you see
or experience early signs of domestic abuse, or if you see a
history of turbulent relationships–get out. If you know your
partner has been abusive in their past relationship(s) and they
have not sought help, please don’t think that this individual is
going to treat you any differently.
Here are just a few signs that you may be in an abusive
relationship: 1) Your spouse/partner begins to isolate you from
friends and family. 2) They constantly want to know where
you are and what you are doing. 3) They take control of your
finances, plans, etc. without discussing
them with you. 4) They rarely take responsibility or admit fault.
5) They manipulate or “gaslight” you. 6) They display feelings
of obsessiveness and/or possessiveness. 7) They engage in
physical, emotional, or sexual violence toward you.
You may ask what causes an individual to act this way. From
a biblical perspective, I direct people back to the sin that we
were all born into, and because sin has no limits, it can include
domestic violence. The bible tells us in 1 John 3:15 that it starts
with hate, and hate can lead to murder. With this being said,
domestic violent relationships can end in murder. You may ask
where that hate comes from. It may come from past abuse or
current abuse and trauma that have never been acknowledged
or healed–this includes hating someone else based on
their skin color. The hate in one’s heart must be expressed
somewhere; hate can be expressed toward the person who
is closest to the individual, often the spouse/partner. If you
are the abuser, God is giving you grace and mercy, so please
get help. If you are the victim, please seek help and safety
immediately. If you are a bystander, please do whatever you
can to help the victim to get out, and please know our office is
here to help.
Thank you
Caleb Thomas M.A. LMHC
319-206-0651
thomasacc.com
caleb@thomasacc.com
Thomas & Associates Counseling & Consulting
Counseling with a God given purpose!
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DEJA’S SUPPORT EXPANDS
***WARNING: DETAILS OF ABUSE IN THIS ARTICLE. MAY BE TRIGGERING. PLEASE USE SELF-CARE.***
W
elcome back to the Courageous
Truths series and Deja’s progress,
Beloved!
It’s been some time now since Deja1
called and got all those resources
from that lady named Courageous.
Her and her beautiful children have started pulling away
from Denzel’s2 influences because Deja researched. She
started comparing what she learned to the actions of Denzel’s
acquaintances and family members and saw oppressive,
exploitative, and/or manipulated/influenced by/sympathetic to
Denzel - flying monkeys.3
As Deja intentionally created more distance from Denzel
and his crew, she noticed more than just the silence. She
also noticed her and her children had NO support at all.
At first, Deja found it baffling, then hurtful, then angering,
then frustrating, then numbing. Yes, she is making all the
right moves - avoiding hoovering4, avoiding flying monkeys,
educating herself, educating her children, and utilizing
resources. However, Deja didn’t have a village anymore - her
old village consisted of unhealthy people.
Deja suddenly wondered to herself, “if so many things he did
were intentionally hurtful, is there some part of this that is the
same?”
She got back online and found this: “Isolation is key if your
abuser is going to be successful in their attempts to control
you”.5 She couldn’t believe it! Wait…of course she could. It
made so much sense - her confusion about Denzel telling
her not to trust her sister’s intentions as pure. His puzzling
belief that she suddenly shouldn’t talk to her mom’s coworkers
because they were interested in her. All of it made sense now.
Wow, she was going to have to brave Step #4: Broaden Her
Support.
But how??
Deja didn’t have a village anymore because she and her
children only accessed what Denzel gave them permission to
access. And he found a reason for them not to access anything
he couldn’t control. Deja’s mind had become so weary of doing
everything, thinking of everything, managing everything -
she’d have to find something to help her envision this. Ahh,
here it was - her good, old friend, National Domestic Violence
Hotline! It had an article giving tips on how to rebuild and
maintain support after isolation. Deja took her time and went
through each tip and asked me to share them with you:
“Reconnect with yourself and your past.”6
That’s right, doggone it! Deja had a past BEFORE Denzel. She
went back to her social media posts before she met him and
spent some really refreshing time on memory lane. Oh MAN,
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her into some of the best fun - EVER! And what about the
infamous girls weekends she used to have? Those were fun,
beautiful, and energizing! Oh yeah, what about the writing
she used to do? She sat down right then and wrote a journal
entry just to prove to herself she still had it. She called this
one, Lest I Forget.
Lest I forget
And think to myself
That I’m being too harsh
Not answering your texts
I stand in the shower holding my breath
Fighting the flashbacks
Of you snatching back the curtain - grabbing me
After ignoring me or being hostile earlier that same night
Expecting me to submit anyway
Because you’re “The Head” and
I’m your wife…
Lest I forget
And think to myself
That I’m wrong to keep
Our children at a distance
From their own father
I get up in the morning
And look over to my left
And see our daughter
Sleeping in the place where she’s slept
Since you left…
Lest I forget
And ask myself
Why I’m not at least considering
Getting back together with the person
I’ve been with for years
I think about the fact I’ve been able to:
Buy clothes for our growing daughters
Get all our bills paid
Go to bed without an argument
Get so many things done
With a focused mind
Since you’ve been gone…
Lest I forget
And say to myself
Maybe we can simply do another “restart”
And things will be okay
I remember that
I finally feel as though I can picture my life
And the lives of our daughters
As ones that may have hope of
Being more than ones of suffering
I remember the research I have done
On what you’ve done to us…
And I know there is
A reason you are NOT here
That I must not give in
Because the future of my life
And the lives of our daughters depends
On me not forgetting to keep us safe
from
you
Therefore…
I won’t forget.7
Deja was gettin’ excited, and that was only the 1st tip! With
each one, she could feel L I F E rushing back into her veins:
1. “Reach out and rebuild relationships” . Deja was going to
reevaluate people that he told her or them to stay away from
to see if they were truly dangerous or that was just part of
the isolation. In that moment she believed she was ready to
explore whether this could be a renewed layer of support for
them!
2. “Throw party/gettogether/playdate”. Deja was still
struggling financially, but she realized there were plenty of
ways to get together without spending money. She figured
she’d talk to her children and pick their brains - give ‘em
something to get excited about!
3. “Join a local organization, club, or place of worship”.
Deja had nearly forgotten about - other places being outside
her door, outside of her everyday routine. She decided while
she was picking her girls’ brains about get togethers, she
would try to help them - and herself - discover what they
really liked. And then…GO DO IT!
4. “Go outside and be a part of the community”. Deja
didn’t even really know anyone or any annual activities they
might enjoy. Why couldn’t she start finding those places?
“Alright Deja,” she told herself, “let’s start with one day one
weekend a month, look something up, and go check it out.
No preplanning, except to make sure it’s open and that’s
it.” Deja couldn’t wait to uncover what was out there in her
world!
5. “Consider a support group”. She wasn’t sure about talking
around strangers, but she’d at least Google it!
6. “Be gentle with yourself and celebrate your progress.”
Deja loved the idea of celebrating OFTEN because she just
wanted to find reasons to have a good time. Deja went to the
Dollar Tree and bought journals for each of them that they
picked out. She told them every time they did something
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with themselves, however that looked to them! Then, if they
felt comfortable, share it with each other. The girls were so
excited, they wrote in the journals when they got home about
getting the journals!
7. “Stay safe.” Deja loved this one as the reminder that
any suggestions or ideas aren’t good ones for her and her
family if they will create a barrier or challenge to what they
already know keeps them safe. Deja carefully evaluated her
situation and decided to wait on reaching out and rebuilding
relationships. She’d reevaluate after more time passed - just
to be SAFE.
As Deja felt her eyelids getting heavy, she definitely
recognized the sound at this point. Yes ma’am, it was the
sound of the check mark in the box of another part of the
Survivor Safe Roadmap, Step #4, Broadening Support. She
knew would sleep well.
Beloved, please keep reading to see this year’s satisfying
conclusion so you can see OR show someone else
the pathway for
Black women
out
of
abuse.
Blessings.
By Courageous Fire
DV Advocate & Founder of Courageous Fire, LLC
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1. Domestic Violence Awareness Month has a Showcase!
Courageous Fire, LLC, sponsored by Polk County Decat and
CPPC as well as Courageous Access, will have a special event
for DVAM. It’s a showcase demonstrating the empowerment
that we access through art, Beloved - you won’t want to miss
these incredible Black women! DV Survivors AND Artists
choosing their favorite art form to demonstrate how art has
done this for them. We’ve chosen a beautiful, cozy space, so
5. DV Prevention for Youth: An energetic, brilliant group
participated in this pilot. This whole package comes from
Detroit, MI, an amazing founder, Tonjie Reese, and her
creation of Eleven24.org curriculum. Funded by United Way
of Central Iowa. It just ended at the end of August 2022, and
we’ve got their take on its impact for them: Outcomes. Here’s
how you can sign up for the cohort that will start in the next
3 - 6 months: Sign Up Link. Our classes enjoyed:
 Good food! They chose where they wanted to eat each of the 8
weeks of the program.
 Workbooks - these workbooks had just enough for facilitator
guidance and left enough room for a youth-centered discussion
each week.
 Variation of Learning Approaches - this journey was filled with
music, TV, movies, reading, writing, individual soul-searching,
and group discussion. This allowed the learning to stick.
 Simplification of Complex Concepts - relationships is a topic
that stumps adults, even after years of practice. However, Tonjie
made sure it was simple enough to be practical and applicable
 Included adults in their lives - The Caring Adults section
made it possible for the youth to share what they were
learning to hopefully encourage the adults in their lives to
model what their youth were learning. It’s always easier to
practice in family circles with people who care and then
radiate that confidence for boundaries to others. Tonjie’s
section on the website for that made that much easier.
6. Empowerment through the Arts™ has started for this Fall!
With the very 1st session, once again Black women are being
strengthened, enlightened, and empowered. If you’re a Black
woman DV survivor, you’re just in time to sign up for Spring
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7. Pilot Alert! Personal Security™ Program: A skilled, fierce
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to learn how to know they can protect themselves using only
their bodies as a weapon. This expertise from Master Rauh
Karim, owner and Sensei of Karim’s Martial Arts School and
funding from Polk County Decat and CPPC, made this pilot
powerful. It just ended at the end of August 2022, and we have
our experts assessments of their growth and capabilities:
 Baseline survey
 Outcomes survey
8. In a relationship? Make sure it’s healthy: Healthy
Relationship Wheel Illustration. Or go to TheHotline.org, or
Phone: 800-799-7233
9. In an abusive relationship?
 Call us to get connected to a Community Safe Space to
Courageous
TR UTHS
You’ll have a ball!
Dec. 2 – 18, 2022
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FOR TICKETS:
begin safety planning, 515-428-0077
 At the Community Safe Space, talk to The Hotline.org to
commence safety planning
 At the Community Safe Space, take a look at types of
abuse, including sexual coercion, at Tools for Us
Endnotes
1. Deja is a composite character whose behaviors,
characteristics, and experiences are created from a
combination of national statistics of Black women and the
experiences of real-life victim-survivors.
2. Deja’s counterpart, Denzel, is a composite character as well,
whose behaviors, characteristics and experiences are created
by the same type of combination
3. Information on Flying Monkeys taken from the Medium.
com article, “How to Defend Against Narcissists’ Flying
Monkeys”
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The power of praise
Written By: Donnetta Austin
“O come, let us sing unto the LORD: let us make a joyful noise to
the rock of our salvation. Let us come before his presence with
thanksgiving and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms.
Psalms 95:1-2, KJV
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here is power in the
name of Jesus. There is
hope when all else fails
in the name of Jesus. We
find strength within the name of
Jesus. Love is not a condition but
unconditional through our Lord
and Savior, Jesus.
Heavenly Father we lift your
name high and give you all glory
in the name of Jesus. You are
worthy of being praised and we
say thank you, Jesus. Thank you
for the mighty hands of healing,
deliverance, and restoration Lord
Jesus. Thank you for your perfect
ways and will over our lives, dear
Lord Jesus. Thank you for being
almighty!
In the month of November, may
we remind ourselves to have a
posture of praise and worship. If
it weren’t for you, Lord, where
would we be? All honor and glory
go to you, Lord. Thank you for
being so good, even in the midst
of trials we face from time to
time. You remain our good Father.
May our response be our words
followed by action in obedience
and thankfulness! In Jesus's
mighty name, Amen. Embrace
the Thanksgiving holiday with an
expression of love, joy, peace, and
happiness!
Donnetta Austin
Amazon: Never Retire God
Email: be.encouragedbyone@gmail.
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By Lauren Livingston, Alzheimer’s Association
National Family Caregivers Month:
Caring for yourself as a Caregiver
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Caregivers Month and National
Alzheimer’s Disease Awareness
Month, and the
Association is raising awareness
of the importance of supporting
caregivers. In Iowa, there are
73,000 family and friends providing care to over 66,000
individuals living with Alzheimer’s or other dementias.
Alzheimer's caregivers frequently report experiencing
high levels of stress. It can be overwhelming to take
care of a loved one with Alzheimer's or other dementia,
but too much stress can be harmful to both of you.
Read on to learn symptoms and ways to avoid burnout.
10 symptoms of caregiver stress
1. Denial about the disease and its effect on the person
who has been diagnosed. I know Mom is going to get
better.
2. Anger at the person with Alzheimer’s or frustration
that he or she can’t do the things they used to be able
to do. He knows how to get dressed — he’s just being
stubborn.
3. Social withdrawal from friends and activities that
used to make you feel good. I don’t care about visiting
with the neighbors anymore.
4. Anxiety about the future and facing another day.
What happens when he needs more care than I can
provide?
5. Depression that breaks your spirit and affects your
ability to cope. I just don't care anymore.
6. Exhaustion that makes it nearly impossible to
complete necessary daily tasks. I'm too tired for this.
7. Sleeplessness caused by a never-ending list of
concerns. What if she wanders out of the house or falls
and hurts herself?
8. Irritability that leads to moodiness and triggers
negative responses and actions. Leave me alone!
9. Lack of concentration that makes it difficult to
perform familiar tasks. I was so busy, I forgot my
appointment.
Alzheimer’s
10. Health problems that begin to take a mental and
physical toll. I can't remember the last time I felt good.
If you experience any of these signs of stress on a
regular basis, make time to talk to your doctor.
Tips to manage stress
• Know what community resources are available.
Adult day programs, in-home assistance, visiting
nurses and meal delivery are just some of the
services that can help you manage daily tasks. Visit
the Alzheimer’s Association Iowa Chapter’s Programs
Event Calendar or contact the 24/7 Helpline at 1-800272-3900
for assistance in finding Alzheimer's care
resources in your community.
• Get help and find support. The Alzheimer’s
Association’s online Care Team Calendar helps you
organize friends and family who want to help provide
care and support. The ALZConnected online community
and local support groups are all good sources for
finding comfort and reassurance. If stress becomes
overwhelming, seek professional help.
• Use relaxation techniques. There are several
simple relaxation techniques that can help relieve
stress. Try more than one to find which works best for
you. Techniques include:
o Visualization – mentally picturing a place or
situation that is peaceful and calm
o Meditation – which can be as simple as dedicating
15 minutes a day to letting go of all stressful thoughts
o Breathing exercises – slowing your breathing
and focusing on taking deep breaths
o Progressive muscle relaxation – tightening and
then relaxing each muscle group, starting at one end
of your body and working your way to the other end
• Get moving. Physical activity — in any form — can
help reduce stress and improve overall well-being.
Even 10 minutes of exercise a day can help. Take a
walk. Do an activity you love, such as gardening or
dancing.
• Find time for yourself. Consider taking advantage
of respite care so you can spend time doing something
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temporary rest from caregiving, while the person with
Alzheimer’s disease continues to receive care in a safe
environment.
• Become an educated caregiver. As the disease
progresses, new caregiving skills may be necessary.
The Alzheimer's Association offers programs to help
you better understand and cope with the behaviors and
personality changes that often accompany Alzheimer's.
You may also find it helpful to talk to other care partners
and caregivers about how they are coping with the
challenges of the disease and uncertainty about the
future.
• Take care of yourself. Visit your doctor regularly. Try
to eat well, exercise and get plenty of rest. Making sure
that you are healthy can help you be a better caregiver.
• Make legal and financial plans. Putting legal and
financial plans in place after an Alzheimer’s diagnosis
is important so that the person with the disease can
participate. Having future plans in place can provide
comfort to the entire family. Many documents can be
prepared without the help of an attorney. However, if you
are unsure about how to complete legal documents or
make financial plans, you may want to seek assistance
from an attorney specializing in elder law, a financial
advisor who is familiar with elder or long-term care
planning, or both.
To learn more about caregiver stress and health, visit
alz.org.
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of North High
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orth High School has been the center
of the North side community for
years, from its first location on Eighth
and College Avenue to its current
location on Sixth and Holcomb; the
school’s mascot, the Polar Bear, has
been the symbol of this urban neighborhood in Des
Moines. North High School football is a well-loved
tradition that has been passed down for generations.
The football program has been going through a major
development for the past decade. The last time they
had a good season was in 1999–nearly 23 years ago.
North has been up and down, only winning one or
two games per season, while losing 7 or more. Many
coaches come and go; there have been attempts to
change the program, but many give up and move on
to a different school. Suburban schools, such as West
Des Moines or Ankeny, are far more recognized for
their football programs, while Des Moines metro
schools such as North, East, Lincoln, Roosevelt, and
Hoover are not. But that will no longer be the case;
this year that will change. One coach has chosen to
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a better future.
Head Coach, Eric Addy, is the key
to leading the program in the right
direction. Addy is the first coach in
recent years that has won 4 games
this season. During my time at North
High, I had two different coaches:
Keith Hanks during my Sophomore
year and Sean Quinlan for my junior
and Senior years. Addy served as an
Assistant Coach during this time.
He was determined and diligent in
motivating the athletes. He believes
in this concept of “Burn the Ship”. The
story goes: A captain and his sailor
were stranded on an island. They want
to give up, but the captain orders his
crew to burn the whole ship because
there is a ship on the other side of the
island where enemies are located; this
encourages a determination to fight
and win, instead of giving up.
Coach Addy never forgot where he
came from and what the North High
community meant to him. He has
worked and learned from previous
coaches, so in 2020, he became the
head coach for the football program.
Because of his boldness and trust in
the players, the team was boosted to
another level of success. This year was
an example of their recent success–
they outperformed their opponents
and scored high, beating Waterloo,
East, Lincoln, and Hoover. But the big
game was a longtime rival that holds
a continuous rivalry: East High. On
the 120th meeting, and for the first
time ever, they finally beat their town
neighbors with a score of 46 to 14. This
was a big shock to the community,
including myself, while others
predicted it would happen because of
their progression since 2020.
Former North High star football player
Deavin Hilson, a 6’1, 200lb pound
linebacker and running back, received
a full-ride scholarship to the University
of Iowa with only a few games and
a scrimmage. He was the first in a
long time that received that kind of
opportunity from the University of
Iowa. These kinds of opportunities
help create motivation from all athletes
in all sports and help to create a new
mindset–to believe that they, too, can
be successful and go to college. Coach
Addy believes in his players, and they
do the same. It is important to move
forward and become “better than you
were yesterday.”
Three of his star athletes are the
reason he had successful wins this
season. #1 Zack Seckee, #51 Kevin
Quayee, and #3 Aron Gonkaryon
helped take their team to 4-1 to begin
the season. The Polar Bears prove to
everyone, including themselves, that
practice makes improvement, not
necessarily perfection. They don’t look
back toward the past, but instead, show
up and do better the next day. These
successes are being passed down to
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the horizon. As of today, the Polar Bears
have shown up, despite being 4-5 in the
season. To them, it is about becoming a
better version of themselves and never
looking back. Instead of looking at the
scoreboard or what others may think
about them, they focus on trying to
improve and learn from past mistakes.
This year is the best performance by far,
and they are not stopping anytime soon.
Coach Addy and the Polar Bears made
history at North High School that many
will remember. After a long time of
rebuilding, this is only the beginning.
This year is all about development and
team bonding that sets a standard for the
upcoming years. As an alumnus of North
High School, I congratulate them on
their accomplished season.
It is a great day to be a Polar Bear!
Photos and Article by Gianni Berry
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Homebuyer Education
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earning the ins and outs of homeownership can
be tough, you may not know where to begin.
Homebuyer education can be a key component
when it comes to deciding if you’re ready.
Not all lenders or loan programs require firsttime
homebuyers to take a course, but some
may require you to attend a class for program
eligibility. Lenders encourage first-time homebuyers to
complete a homebuyer education course as early in their
home search as possible. If you miss out on the education
course, you may lose the opportunity to gain perspective
on new or unique loan programs that could educate you on
making the change from renting to owning.
Here are a few topics that are discussed in a first-time
homebuyers’ class:
· Whether you’re ready for homeownership
· Budgeting and money management
· Assessing your creditworthiness
· Programs that can help you buy your first home
· Comparing different types of mortgages
The focus of homebuyer education classes is to prepare you
for buying a home. Certain aspects of the course will focus
on how much money you need for a down payment, how
much you can afford, and the costs of home maintenance.
Homebuyer education can also help non-first-time
homebuyers, such as individuals that have bounced back
from financial hardship and are ready to buy again. This will
help these individuals to freshen up on new skills, tips, and
the overall home-buying process.
Neighborhood Finance Corporation (NFC) encourages all
first-time homebuyers to complete a homebuyer education
class prior to looking for a home or signing a purchase
agreement. In fact, if the education course is completed
prior to signing the purchase agreement with an NFC
Advantage Loan, NFC will provide a $75 credit to the
homebuyer at closing.
There are a variety of options for taking a homebuyer
education class, including both in-person and virtual
opportunities. Community organizations that are HUDapproved,
such as HOME Inc. in Des Moines, can offer
in-person classes or may have a virtual option. HomeView™
is Fannie Mae’s online homebuyer education class that you
complete on your own and is available in six languages.
Now the big question is, what is this going to cost? The cost
varies with the different agencies that offer the classes.
Some start at $75 and some are completely free. Talk with
your first mortgage lender to see if they have any additional
requirements. The United States Department of Housing
and Urban Development (HUD) has a list of HUD Approved
Counseling Agencies on their website [http://www.hud.gov/
offices/hsg/sfh/hcc/hcs.cfm]. Check online to find one near
you!
Homebuyer Education VS Housing Counseling
You may have heard the term, housing counseling, which
is different from homebuyer education because housing
counseling is unique to an individual’s financial situation.
Housing counseling is usually a time to meet one on one to
establish an action plan to fulfill a dream of homeownership.
The action plan may include: creating and following a
household budget, improving a credit score, or other goals
specific to your household. Housing counseling is often
suggested for those who are ineligible for a loan, are in need
of the one-on-one assistance, or are required by a lender
because of possible low credit scores and/or lack of savings
or down payment.
Research has shown that homebuyer education can provide
timely and powerful support for people as they weigh their
options and make decisions about homeownership. Buying
a home is one of the largest purchases someone can make.
For new homebuyers, it is crucial that they are prepared as
much as possible. Homebuyer education not only prepares
you to make a decision about whether you are ready to
purchase a home, but it also prepares you for what happens
next.
Buying a home is a huge decision, but you don’t have to go
into it blind. If you decide that you’re not ready after taking
a course, that’s fine! Although you will want to check with
the agency to see how long the certificate is good for since
some programs or lenders will have an expiration date on
their certificates. In the meantime, start to make goals for
you and your household to work on to set yourself up for
success as a future homeowner.
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Jamil Rivers, Board President
METAvivor Research and Support, Inc.
Written By: Celeste Lawson
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amil Rivers was diagnosed with
metastatic breast cancer at age 39.
Determined to fight and be here for
her children, husband and family, she
researched vigorously to learn how to
best prepare for her battle to survive.
Jamil initially had chemotherapy
treatment, she worked to improve her
nutrition with food and supplements,
and incorporated integrative therapies for side effects.
She is doing well and now on endocrine therapy.
She continues to work full-time as a nonprofit chief
financial officer and live an active life. She believes
that the research she did to prepare herself for her
cancer fight has been critical in her recovery and
overall wellness.
She became an advocate to use her voice and
experiences to help advance legislative policy, medical
research and customize support to better meet the
needs of individuals impacted by breast cancer,
particularly for metastatic and African American
patients. Jamil is President of METAvivor Research
and Support, a Young Advocate and Board Member of
Living Beyond Breast Cancer. She is a policy, science
and health equity advocate, and metastatic advisory
committee member with Susan G. Komen. She is a
member and patient advisor of the Metastatic Breast
Cancer Alliance. She is a proposal reviewer for the
Breast Cancer Research Program with the Department
of Defense and a Project LEAD graduate. She also
launched The Chrysalis Initiative which provides
mentoring, and resource navigation, to women with
breast cancer, and engages in outreach and education
for African American women to assess their breast
cancer risk.
Through Jamil’s work, she has participated in countless
community health events, facilitated the design
and funding of two metastatic clinical trials, met
with leadership within the Pennsylvania governor’s
office and congressional leaders in Washington, D.C.,
testified to the (U.S.) Food and Drug Administration
(FDA), and connected numerous women to resources
for screenings, treatment and support. Jamil has
been featured in People Magazine, the Philadelphia
Inquirer, the Philadelphia Tribune, national campaigns
for Anthropologie, Novartis, Pfizer, and Cancer and
Careers, and has also made appearances on CBS News
and Good Morning America. Jamil and her husband,
Rick, have three children and reside in Drexel Hill, PA.
The following are excerpts from the interview with
Jamil that was conducted on October 17, 2022.
Celeste: What are the primary goals as president of
METAvivor Research and Support, Inc.?
Jamil Rivers: To bring more public awareness to
metastatic breast cancer and to raise more money for
metastatic breast cancer research. I think that most
people, the general public, thinks that no one dies
from metastatic breast cancer anymore. The survival
rate, across all stages, for five years is good, however,
we still have many people…115 people per day…
that are still dying from breast cancer. So, it is great
that we are not dying immediately, but we still have
a lot of people dying from breast cancer, which the
breast cancer that you die from…is metastatic breast
Jamil has been featured in People Magazine, the
Philadelphia Inquirer, the Philadelphia Tribune, national
campaigns for Anthropologie, Novartis, Pfizer, and Cancer
and Careers, and has also made appearances on CBS News
and Good Morning America. Jamil and her husband, Rick,
have three children and reside in Drexel Hill, PA.
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prevention…and yes, it is great for it to be detected
early to let you have basic treatment options…but
that is not going to eliminate the risk of death later,
so we do need to have more focus on research and
developing treatment and therapies for metastatic
breast cancer…and just finding it early…or having
chemo early…or having radiation, and things of that
nature, is not going to eliminate the risk of death
later, or the risk of breast cancer becoming metastatic
later.
We are finding now that metastatic breast cancer is
very similar to what we find with HIV/AIDS, where
cells travel through your body and your bloodstream…
the spread of these cells are what make the breast
cancer metastasize to other organs in the body…even
after the breasts are removed, and even after you
have received chemotherapy and radiation.
So, it is really important for folks to understand that
metastatic breast cancer requires ongoing treatment,
maintenance and monitoring…chemotherapy and
treatment will not completely eliminate or cure the
disease. Right now, there is not a cure for metastatic
breast cancer and it is a very complicated cancer to
solve. Our best hope is to transition the disease from
terminal to one that is chronic with a good quality of
life. Make it a disease that is something that we can
live with…and is managed, similarly to HIV/AIDS…we
need more public attention and research dollars to
invest in the therapeutics that are going to sustain life
with metastatic breast cancer. Right now, men and
women living with metastatic breast cancer literally
live from one treatment bridge to the next, until they
run out of options.
Celeste: Relative to your organizational goals, what
are the major successes, and what are the goals that
you may consider most challenging?
Jamil Rivers: I think the biggest thing is that we
have had great success in bringing more public
awareness and funding $23,150,000 in metastatic
breast cancer research. We have also funded about a
million dollars in research to determine why people
of color have poorer outcomes when diagnosed
with metastatic breast cancer. We are eager for our
research to transition to clinical trials. It is what we
look forward to the most. We do not fund prevention
of metastasis. While there is a place for that, many
organizations count that toward solving at stage
IV, and that isn’t what we do. METAvivor funds
research that can help me and others living with
metastatic breast cancer. It is not just a lip service
to say that it is metastatic, or use it in the title. It is
going to have clinical utilization within five years. It
also benefits people with metastatic breast cancer.
So, it's not just a research into hoping that we don’t
get to that stage, but actually viable treatments and
therapeutics for metastatic breast cancer folks to
know that this is something that could be beneficial
to them, and life-changing, meaning that it has an
impact on their disease. This is certainly what sets
us apart. Our existence also puts that pressure on
other organizations to follow suit…us being able to
set the standard as far as what is considered to even
be metastatic breast cancer research, I think is very
important. It is important to make our community
aware of what that actually entails…and then making
sure that the general public also understands what
this all means. What is metastatic breast cancer?
What are the implications? Are we really making the
progress that we say we are? As patients, we like to
hear that new treatments have a greater progressionfree
survival rate, but what we really want is overall
survival rates to change. That means fewer of us are
dying.
Some of the biggest challenges are that we have had
organizations and companies where breast cancer is
a big business. We have these companies that have
been around now for 25, 30, 50 years, and have made
little progress toward solving stage IV breast cancer…
but we still need more progress when it comes to
metastatic breast cancer.
30% of early-stage breast cancer patients can and
do become metastatic 1 month to 20 years after
diagnosis. Some may say, ‘wait a minute’…we have
people that don’t reach metastatic disease for 10 or
20 years? Yes, that is true, and yes, that is still dying
from metastatic breast cancer, even if it is 5, 10, or 20
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progression-free survival…you know…it’s under control,
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cancer you die from.
Celeste: How may the public support your goals relative
to metastatic breast cancer awareness?
Jamil Rivers: People need to understand that metastatic
breast cancer is not an outlier, it is not something that
is a rare occurrence, or something that happens to the
few, and far between. This is how you die from breast
cancer… you are not dying from when the tumor is
still in the breast. So, when you are thinking about
organizations that you are supporting, what are they
doing with those dollars? Is there transparency in
how they are using those dollars for investment, and
what is the ultimate impact? If we are just shifting the
same dirt around on the floor, then we are actually not
making any progress…then those aren’t true investment
viability of those dollars. What is actually going to be an
impact to solve at stage IV? We as advocates, have no
more acceptance for the status quo, but really pushing
on how we can use resources in order to provide
dynamic change to the landscape, instead of just kind
of rehashing the same old solutions, using the same
investments in solutions and not really having any
significant change. Metastatic breast cancer is not a rare
disease, metastatic breast cancer is when you die from
breast cancer. There has been some progress made over
the past few years and some people can live for five
years, but not everyone, and our median survival rate
still stands at 24 months. That is unacceptable. We still
have 115 people that are succumbing to this disease
every day and there has to be more public awareness,
research investment, and being more scrutinizing as
to where that investment goes in order for us to have
more impact on the change that we want to see.
Celeste: Are there any final thoughts that you would like
to share?
Jamil Rivers: I would also say the equity is important
as well. Just thinking about how we could reduce the
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amount of deaths due to metastatic breast cancer
if there is more emphasis on making sure that we
eliminate bias and racism in our healthcare system, or
having accountability measurements and mechanisms
in order to make sure that people are not receiving
substandard care. That would also improve the death
rates when it comes to metastatic breast cancer.
Just thinking about some of the bureaucracy that we
have in some of our public health systems, why is it that
we just have these ridiculous waiting periods for people
to access their benefits, or they have to be destitute
without any type of resources before they can receive
public assistance, and be eligible to have their coverage,
for their treatment for metastatic breast cancer?
We should have interest outcomes…if we would just
get out of our own way and think about the investment
that it would take to make sure that we have access to
the immediate coverage that is needed instead of all
of these nuances where if it is an oral treatment, then
it is not going to be covered, but if I am hooked up to a
machine, then it would be covered by my insurance.
So, thinking about what is most conducive for living
with this disease longer and having better outcomes
for all people, we have to shift our thoughts about how
we are really investing dollars and resources in that
public awareness, because ultimately we are trying to
eliminate people dying from this disease…and the way
we do that is with more research investment going for
metastatic breast cancer. So, metastatic breast cancer
is the one that you die from…the therapeutics, the
treatments, and the investments have to go there…and
it also includes having accountability when it comes to
standard of care.
Celeste: Thank you.
*To learn more about METAvivor, go to https://www.
metavivor.org/.
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Debra Carr
Angela Jackson, Esq. is an
Entrepreneur and owner of The
Great Frame Up which is an Art
Gallery and Custom Framing
Business located in West Des
Moines. She also is Senior Vice
President of Diversity, Equity
and Inclusion at Athene USA
Corporation. Angela serves her
community as Board Member of
The West Des Moines Chamber,
Des Moines Arts Festival,
Cornerstone Family Church and
an Honorary Board Member for
Des Moines Performing Arts. She
is a member of Delta Sigma Theta
Sorority, Inc. and The Des Moines
Chapter of the Links, Incorporated.
Angela is a Thought Leader and
alumni of Washington University
School of Law and Duke University.
Debra Carr serves professionally
and personally as a champion
for diversity, inclusion, and
equity. Uplifting women and
girls to become the best version
of themselves is foundational.
Debra is Principal Consultant and
owner of Carr and Associates and
works full-time for Des Moines
Public Schools consulting for
building level administrators,
faculty, and staff to achieve
school improvement goals.
Debra has received numerous
awards and is a champion for
her community in which she has
served for many years.
Gary Lawson
Gary Lawson is a freelance writer
who focuses on various aspects
of business and government.
He earned a graduate degree
in Government Administration,
and an undergraduate degree in
Business Administration with a
duel concentration in Management
and Marketing. He is a VietnamEra
veteran who has served as a
Commissioned Officer in the United
States Army. In addition, he has
taught business courses at Drake
University and Des Moines Area
Community College.
C O NTRIB UT O RS
Celeste Lawson
Celeste Lawson is a freelance
writer who focuses on various
aspects of education and cultural
diversity. She earned a graduate
degree in Curriculum and
Instruction, and an undergraduate
degree in Elementary Education,
with concentrations in English
and Language Arts. In addition,
she has more than 20 years
of classroom experience with
teaching students at the primary,
secondary, and postsecondary
levels.
Lenore Metrick-Chen
Lenore Metrick-Chen Associate
Professor of Art and Cultural History
at Drake University.
She specializes in exploring
visual art as a means of cultural
communication, racial justice, and
collective memory.
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school counselor, behavioral health
intervention services counselor,
and a mental health counselor.
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which is located in Iowa City, Iowa.
His practice focuses on the spiritual,
mental, physical, and emotional
well-being of each individual client.
Caleb works with children, youth,
adults, couples and families helping
them solve tough problems with a
Christ-centered, solution-focused
approach. His desire is to bring
about a positive change to the
various challenges life can bring.
Caleb is an Ordained and Licensed
Minister and Elder and volunteers
his time as a Ministry Director for
Lifepointe Christian Faith Center.
Bert Moody is a Photographer, an
IT Consultant, and Web Designer
for the Urban Experience Magazine.
He has been with the magazine
from its inception.
He has been a Freelance
Photographer in the Des Moines
area since 1985, first with
Esquire Photo Agency and now
with Imagez Photo Studio (www.
imagezphotostudio.com). He
also is a longtime associate at
Nationwide Insurance as is a part
of their National Network of Black
Associates. Bert volunteers for
many activities in the community
and is a Board member with The
Des Moines Urban Experience.
Bert is married with three grown
children.
C O NTRIB UT O RS
Donetta Austin
Donnetta Austin is from the Midwest.
Her accomplishments include
graduating from Scott Eastern Iowa
Community College as a Registered
& Certified Dental Assistant. She has
worked in healthcare for seventeen
years. She also provides care for
elderly as a certified nurse aide and
currently attending DMACC as a
Nursing student.
Donnetta became an author of
her book “Never Retire God” in
2017. This book can be purchased
on Amazon. She enjoys writing
inspirational books and articles.
She feels this is apart of her life’s
purpose. Her writing expresses the
importance of living a life with no
regrets, uplifting others, and making
a significant impact by sharing her
testimony. It is her life’s goal to make
a difference in the lives of others.
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Lori A. Young
Lori A. Young is a native of
Des Moines and a graduate
of Tech High School and
Grand View University. Her
professional experience lies in
corporate internal and marketing
communications. Currently she is
self-employed on assignment with
the non-profit organization, Just
Voices Iowa, as a Communications
Director and Project Manager. In
her spare time, she’s a feature
writer, artist, and community
organizer/social activist fighting
on issues such as racial,
environmental, and economic
justice for over 10 years.
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Gianni Berry
Courageous exited a 13-year intimate
partner relationship because she
discovered it was steeped in multiple
abuses, including psychological.
sexual, and spiritual. This experience
made her not only want to learn how
and why it happened to her, but how
she and other Black sisters could
avoid it in the future.
Her gift of converting personal life
experiences into educational currency
is well proven; however, this time
she believes it has led her to develop
what may be the most important work
in her 9 years of curriculum design
and delivery - Empowerment through
the Arts™. Black trauma-informed
therapists recommend it and Black
female focus group participants are
finding the program’s gains to be
sustainable.
Courageous has begun the work
in the community that interacts
with the Black female survivor as
well, bringing tools that allow them
to see the Black female victimsurvivor’s
needs and address them
appropriately in her Awareness
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and Community Support Training.
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of the Urban Experience Magazine to
keep growing the numbers of Black
sisters that get the help they need.
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Gianni Berry is a 24-year-old Des
Moines native. He completed
his education in the Des Moines
Public School district. After
graduation from North High school
in 2016, he attended Indian Hills
Community College and finished
his undergraduate studies at
Grandview University in 2021,
where he majored in Liberal Arts.
He was in honor society all four
years of college. In addition, Mr.
Berry played football, basketball,
and was a team member of
the Viking track team. Upon
graduating from Grandview,
Gianni decided to formally study
and pursue a photography
degree from Des Moines Area
Community College. After taking
a photography course at Indian
Hills, Gianni discovered a passion
for creativity through photo
expression. His artistic goal is to
tell the stories of life, people, and
events through pictures.
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• Currently smoke or have
quit in the past 15 years
• Have a 20 pack-year
smoking history (ex: a pack
a day for 20 years or two
packs a day for 10 years)
Schedule a screening today:
(515) 282-6246
1801 Hickman Road, Des Moines, IA
www.broadlawns.org
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