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YP Spotlight:
Bettina
Jose
P.7
P.15
Digital Dialogue Series
P.10
10 Reasons Online Reviews
Are Key for Building Your
Funeral Home’s Brand
P.24
What COVID-19 Has Taught
Us About Aftercare
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questions about your financial future; often these questions relate
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or staff raise the money to buy the business, and if not, who else
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Table of
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President’s Message
OGR New Board and Officers
Digital Dialogue Series
Virtual Grief Support Programs
“Staying Connected” Campaign
10 Reasons Online Reviews are Key
YP Spotlight: Bettina Jose
The Invisible Front Lines
COVID-19 and Aftercare
APASI
30 | Member News
33 |
In Memoriam
34 | Member Spotlight
37 |
Above & Beyond
38 | Milestone Anniversaries
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— BOARD of DIRECTORS —
President
President-Elect
Secretary-Treasurer
Immediate Past President
Directors
Mary Steele
Evan J. Strong
Paul Hummel, III
Tom L. Hemmerle
Kim Hunter
Raffy Jose
Chris Miller
Peter A. Urban, Jr.
Jamie Wieting
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Interim Executive Director
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Mark McSweeney, CAE
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I want to begin by
telling you that I am
honored to serve
as your president
for
2020-2021.
has been a
It
totally
different experience
than I had imagined
with cancelling our
Annual Convention
and Solution Center.
I was sworn into
office at my home,
with my family
around me and on
the Zoom meeting to watch. Hopefully, we will be able to
resume our Annual Convention in 2021. While it wasn’t
what anyone anticipated, it was an amazing experience.
I’m sure as we all made our resolutions, goals and
plans for the year not one of us would have thought
a pandemic would almost bring the world to a halt. I
know COVID-19 has certainly made a change in my
world.
In our area, we all scrambled quickly to keep up to
date with the daily changes, just to find out the next
day that we could no longer do what we were able to
do the day before. We learned very quickly that we had
to tell families right away that funerals had changed
dramatically; that we would help them plan a funeral
that meets their immediate needs, and could then
help plan a memorial service in a few months when
everything has settled down a bit.
Families were overwhelmed with the changes and so
were we. We did not have the words, “I’m sorry but we
just cannot do that at this time” in our vocabulary. We
had always said, “we will make it happen.” We learned
how to do drive-through funerals and drive-in cemetery
services all in quick order. I know when we can all get
together again, we will all have our war stories to share
and many of us will say, “I cannot believe we did this,
but…”.
I believe that most of us in funeral service have been
very imaginative and active in providing the best
possible service for each family we served during this
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time and I am so glad we have had the support from our
OGR staff to keep us informed and right on time with
all the changes we have and will continue to face. Thank
you all for your commitment to serving those families
you are honored to serve and to serve them with the
highest levels of service available.
As we progress forward to start opening our businesses
back to our new normal level of serving, I know we will
all still need to be ready to serve each family in new
ways.
I would also like to remind you that we have an awesome
staff in Indianapolis, and they stand ready to assist all of
us with any need we may have. I don’t know how many
people were able to attend the Weekly Roundtables,
but those I attended were great and provided help in
solving some problems and ideas to share with families
and others. OGR has some awesome programs in place
and the new grief resources are wonderful.
As I close, I just want you to know that I am available
if you need to reach out to me. I would enjoy speaking
with you and helping you in any way that I can. For dayto-day
operation questions, please call the OGR office.
We look forward to opportunities to talk with OGR
members and answer as many questions as we can.
Yours in service,
Mary Flynn Steele
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OGR Installs New Board and Officers
By Nancy Weil, OGR Member Resources Director
Due to COVID-19 travel restrictions, the 2020-2021
OGR Board of Directors met virtually on April 21 by
video conference for their quarterly board meeting
and installed new board members and officers for
the coming year. Mary Steele of Arnett & Steele
Funeral Home in Pineville, KY was installed as OGR’s
president. Tom Hemmerle of Barnett-Strother Funeral
Home, Madisonville, KY transitioned to Immediate
Past President, Evan Strong of Evan J. Strong Funeral
Services in Calgary, AB as President-Elect and Paul
Hummel, III of Hummel Funeral Home in Akron, OH
as Secretary-Treasurer.
solutions that will help their businesses and the families
they serve post-COVID-19. Along with our members,
we will rise beyond the pandemic and continue to set
the standard for funeral service and charge forward to
be the standard for the industry to follow.”
“OGR is excited to have a board that covers so many
geographical areas from coast to coast, from Canada
to the US to the Philippines, from small towns to
large cities,” said Interim Executive Director Mark
McSweeney. “This diversity will provide unique insight
and guidance to enhance OGR’s service to all of our
members in the year ahead.”
About 2020-2021 President May F. Steele
The following members are returning to the Board: Raffy
Jose of Arlington Memorial Chapels, Inc. in Quezon
City, Manila, Philippines; Chris Miller of Thomas
Miller Mortuary and Crematory in Corona, CA; Peter
Urban, Jr. of Anton B. Urban Funeral Home in Ambler,
PA; and Jamie Wieting of Wieting Family Funeral
Home in Chilton, WI. Kim R. Hunter of Humphrey
Funeral Home A.W. Miles – Newbigging Chapel Ltd. in
Toronto, ON, Canada was sworn in as first-time elected
board member, serving a two-year term.
After Mary was installed, she shared some of her
plans for the Association as OGR President. “I’d first
like to ensure we help our members come out of the
Coronavirus pandemic successfully and help them
thrive in their communities.” She continued, “Moving
forward will continue to provide our members with
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Mary F. Steele, CFSP, CPC, CCO is co-owner of Arnett
& Steele Funeral Home in Pineville, KY. She has been a
licensed funeral director and embalmer since 1991 and
is both a graduate of nursing school and of Mid-America
College of Funeral Service. Mary served as the first
woman president of the Funeral Directors Association
of Kentucky. Mrs. Steele brings a lot of experience to
the Board having received numerous honors and
awards including the NFDA Initiative Award (2007)
and the OGR Community Service Award (2008). She
also serves on the Advisory Board for Mid America
College of Funeral Service, formerly served on the
Southeast Community and Technical College Funeral
School’s Advisory Board, and is a Certified Preplanning
Consultant and Certified Crematory Operator.
Mary has been married to Jay Steele since 1977 and
they have a son; Jason (and Jessica), who works in the
funeral home with her, and a daughter, Margaret, who is
a Forensic Toxicologist with the Louisiana State Police
Crime Laboratory in Baton Rouge, LA. Jay and Mary
have granddaughters, Vian (16) and Nadine (14) and
a 5-month-old grandson, Blaze, who keeps their lives
active!
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A New Educational Series for You
and Your Staff
By Evan Hoffmeyer, OGR Communications Director
The COVID-19 pandemic created a sudden shift in how
funeral homes like yours serve families. Many traditional
methods for hosting visitations and funerals were
limited, but this limitation paved the way for innovation
that could help us better serve families moving forward.
In response to this, OGR has gathered some of the top
industry thought leaders to offer concrete steps and new
tools to help you lead your staff into this new future.
From harnessing new technologies to serving families
working through delayed grief, take advantage of this
Digital Dialogue Series as a free member benefit and
participate in four afternoons of learning, designed to
improve your business and recover from the COVID-19
pandemic. Join industry thought leaders and fellow
members for 8 hours of virtual education on July 28
& 30 and August 4 & 6 from 3 p.m. - 5 p.m. EDT.
July 28 - Aug. 6, 3 p.m. - 5 p.m. EDT
Members can attend all 8 hours FOR
FREE
If you need CE credit:
• Members: $50/hour or $299 for all
8
• Non-Members: $75/hour or $399
for all 8
Learn more about each session and
register at OGR.org/DDS
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Hope After Heartache: 2 Virtual Grief
Support Program Options
Included with your OGR membership
By Nancy Weil, OGR Member Resources Director
Telephone Grief Support Group
Offer your families access to a grief support group you
don’t have to run. I am a Certified Grief Management
Specialist with over 17 years experience running grief
support programs. Let me become your grief support
resource so you can do more for those you serve than
just offering an expected, “I’m sorry for your loss.”
Here’s how it works:
• OGR offers a grief support group once a month on
GoToMeeting, which families can access via video
chat or audio only.
• You will receive a templated outreach letter you
can tailor for your funeral home and mail to every
family you serve.
• The
letter
contains
simple
participants to use each month.
• Once a month, participants make the call, connect
with others who are grieving - all under the
guidance of a skilled facilitator offering participants
specific tools to navigate the journey of grief
Plus, you get even more resources to offer to your
families:
• A Brief Exploration of Grief booklet written by
me that you can post on your website
• Blogs and articles you can print, put in newsletters
or post on your social media pages
Voicemail Program
A Virtual Hug allows friends and family to record a
voice message of comfort along with a memory or two
your bereaved families can listen to again and again.
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instructions
for
While tribute walls on obituary pages and social media
posts let families know they’re not alone in their time of
grief, a voice recording goes the extra step to connect
with those grieving and is accessible to people of all ages.
By inviting others to leave messages of comfort in a
voicemail box, your families will get something they will
treasure over the weeks and months ahead. Each time
they listen to a story being told, they will be connected
to both the person who called as well as their loved one.
The entire family can access these messages and will be
able to download and keep their messages forever.
It is simple to set up and simple for the family to use. You
will receive:
• Detailed instructions on how to set up each family’s
individual voicemail box
• A template form you can give to each family with
information on how to use the system
• Program logo
• A press release to send out to local media alerting
them to this new grief support option
Here is what one OGR member had to say about offering
a grief support program:
“I never felt motivated about offering grief support,
but Nancy’s passion and insight has made me realize
that along with there being a need for grief support, it
can be a great opportunity to connect with people in
the community and essentially gain referrals.”
Your families are counting on you to support them in
their time of need, not just for a day or a week but for the
duration of their grief journey. Get started by contacting
Nancy at nweil@ogr.org or (512) 334-5504 ext. 304.
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“Stay Connected” New Marketing
Campaign Now Available
By Nancy Weil, OGR Member Resources Director
Included with your OGR membership
Reach out
to your community with these messages
designed to engage consumers during the COVID-19
pandemic. With so much of the news being filled with
what people “can’t do,” these messages are filled with what
they “can do.” Best of all, you can let them know what you
“are doing” to help the families you serve during this time.
This program is designed to allow you to easily post
messages to your social media accounts showing the
resiliency of people to adapt to new safety restrictions
while also reminding them of the importance of being
#TogetherAgain.
options such as webstreaming of services, drive-by
visitations or spacing of chairs in your chapel.
• Now more than ever…stay connected with those
you love is the theme of nine social media memes.
Each of these fun posts highlight the way normal
activities such as family reunions, group fitness and
play dates have changed under COVID-19. Optional:
OGR can put your funeral home’s logo on each of
these posts for a small fee.
• Pre-Plan Today social posts focused on reasons to
pre-arrange their funeral.
• We Remember ads memorializing those who have
died during the COVID-19 pandemic.
This new program is available as part of your membership
at no charge. Optional: Have your funeral home’s logo
placed on each social media meme for $50. To get started,
visit https://www.ogr.org/stay-connected or contact
Nancy Weil at (512) 334-5504 ext. 304.
You will receive:
• Why Funerals Matter More Than Ever Before is a
piece designed to be used as a blog, press release or
recorded for a television or radio spot. This message
reminds people about the importance of funerals
and allows your funeral home to highlight ways
your funeral home is accommodating families with
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n today’s online world, consumers rely on search
results, social media and peer reviews to perform
research and gather feedback on businesses they
are considering visiting or products they’re thinking
of purchasing. While it can be easy for a business to
turn a blind eye on the reviews the company receives,
simply ignoring those review sites can be damaging to a
business’s bottom line.
While this probably comes as no surprise, more than
90% of consumers read online reviews before making
a purchase. As they seek out peer reviews on brands
or companies that they’re considering doing business
with, they’re looking for specific things. Consumers
actually look for negative reviews to discover authentic
feedback from real customers. In addition to negative
reviews, they want to see how a business handled that
situation and responded to a negative experience.
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The funeral profession is not immune from reviews and
how they impact the firm’s online reputation. Managing
your reputation has always been important and will
become even more crucial in the coming years. Now is
the time to become better equipped to handle the good
and the bad of online reviews.
Still not convinced or not sure where to start? Here are
ten reasons online reviews are important and how they
can impact your funeral home’s business.
1. Increase Calls
One of the biggest reasons why online reviews are
important is that ultimately positive reviews increase
calls by giving families the objective information they
need to make the decision to contact your funeral home
– whether for pre-need or an at-need situation. People
are always much more likely to use a company that has
already been recommended by others.
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2. Understand and Better Serve Your Families
Online reviews can tell you whether you are doing a
good job or conversely what you are doing wrong and
need to address to improve your service to families.
This allows you to better serve your families by quickly
and efficiently resolving any issues they have, thereby
creating a positive experience for the family that will
only help your business in the future.
3. Improve Rankings
Online reviews do more than just
creating better
relationships between your firm and your families,
they work towards improving your website’s ranking on
search engines like Google, Bing, Yahoo! and more. The
more that is written about your funeral home online,
the more important a search engine considers you to be!
4. Enhance Higher Keyword Content
Online reviews help your funeral home’s website to
have a steady influx of SEO keywords that can help
your firm have a more prominent online presence
for families.
This is due to the fact that many of the
keywords included in online reviews help to bring up
your website in search results for families looking for a
funeral home to contact.
5. Allow Families to Have a Voice and Create
Loyalty
Consumers who take the time to leave an online review
for a business are far more likely to feel a certain loyalty to
that business. Through the act of leaving an online review
and establishing a relationship with the firm, it allows
your families to feel like they have a voice and are able to
provide feedback in a positive and meaningful way.
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6. Create Engagement
Many times, online review pages can become active
social communities where consumers leave reviews and
keep coming back to see if others have made comments on
their reviews or to simply see what other consumers have
to say about the business in general. For funeral homes,
this can create a social community of engagement that
allows families to form an attachment to both the firm
and the other families as well.
7. Allow Families to Do Your Marketing for You
A handful of positive online business reviews is worth a
great deal and can offer your funeral home benefits that
a simple marketing campaign can’t. They are like micro
marketing campaigns that keep working long after
the online review has been posted, giving a constant
positive image to potential families and creating a
continual brand awareness that benefits the firm for the
short term and for the long term.
number of reviews appears to be enough to give folks the
confidence to add their own views on that business. It is
a new form of online ‘crowd behavior’ that psychologists
are still working to figure out!
10. Help Attract Employees
Thus far, I have concentrated on reviews as they relate to
families. But what about your staff; how do your online
reviews impact them? Having a professional, talented
and loyal staff is crucial to any business’s success, but
especially a company in funeral service.
Individuals
looking for a job will most likely research a company
and its reputation on websites like Glassdoor before
applying. Your own funeral home’s reputation not only
influences families’ decisions but also your future or
current employees’ actions.
The funeral profession is not immune
from reviews and how they impact the
firm’s online reputation.
8. Provide Content for Future Marketing Efforts
Instead of telling families your firm is great, have
families that you have served speak for you, which is
more effective in building trust. You can take advantage
of positive online reviews and use them in a variety
of ways to increase trust and boost conversions. For
example, they can be posted on your website, be featured
in a print ad or be shared on social media – once you
have received their permission.
9. Generate More Reviews
When a business, product or service has already
received reviews online it seems to encourage others
to leave their own feedback. Just the appearance of a
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Businesses must always prioritize acquiring the best
talent possible. After all, research has shown that a
bad hire can cost at least 30% of the employee’s firstyear
earnings, a costly mistake.
And keeping good talent in this
tight job market is crucial.
If your
reputation is stopping the best talent
from applying to your business (and
driving your best employees away),
you might not even realize how your
funeral home is suffering.
Conclusion
Most funeral homes think about
online reviews and an online reputation strategy only
when they find that
their business has drastically
dropped. They start to investigate the matter only when
they find a drop in their calls. Regaining the momentum
may not be easy when your business has reached such
a stage.
Implementing an online reputation management
strategy in advance is the best thing to avoid such a
negative situation. A good strategy will help build trust
and credibility for your funeral home. As you are well
aware, having the trust of your families is very important
to the success of your funeral home.
Knowing how your families and employees are talking
about you is the first big step. Looking for ways to
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improve your reputation is the next one. By ensuring
your business has a reputation management strategy,
you’re not only making sure your families love you,
but also your current and future employees. And loyal
employees are worth much more than their weight in
gold.
An online reputation management strategy can help
mitigate the damage done to your brand by negative
publicity to a certain extent. The more effective your
online reputation strategy is the better for the growth of
your funeral home. That is why you should implement
an effective online reputation management strategy
for your business without further delay. It can help to
increase calls and take your funeral home to the next
level. An effective online reputation management plan
is ideal to maintain the good name of your firm in the
long run.
Now more than ever, it is vital to be aware of how your
firm is perceived in the community. By watching how
people talk and doing what you can to make things
right, you can enjoy a better reputation online. Careful
reputation management does not just help protect you
from negative reviews. It can also improve your funeral
home’s profile and help you continue to thrive.
As Ben Franklin once said, “It takes many good deeds
to build a good reputation, and only one bad one to lose
it.” Remember his words the next time you question
the value of online reviews and an online reputation
management strategy.
Joe Weigel is the owner of Weigel Strategic Marketing,
a communications firm focused on the funeral profession
that delivers expertise across three marketing disciplines:
public relations, branding, and communications. Visit
his website at weigelstrategicmarketing.webs.com. He
also can be reached at weigelstrategicmarketing@gmail.
com.
It takes many
good deeds to
build a good
reputation, and
only one bad one
to lose it.
-Benjamin
Franklin
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Young Professional Interview:
Bettina V. Jose
My dad would take me to school in
the morning before heading to the
office. It gave us that time to often
exchange ideas about the business.
While I loved the morning banter,
I honestly felt it was also the perfect
opportunity to bounce off ideas
with a “mentor” and in a way,
sharpen the business tools I was
learning in school. It wasn’t long
before I developed a keen interest
(and passion for) the industry.
I knew I would have to hone and
develop the skills needed. I was also
aware that expectations would be
higher. And I certainly did not want
to disappoint. I wanted to come in
prepared and be truly deserving of
the spot I would be given. I decided
to gain corporate experience for two
years before entering the company.
This ended up working in my favor
as I was able to bring a lot of the
discipline and the experience from
my previous job to Arlington.
Bettina V. Jose is a 26-year-old sales and marketing
manager at Arlington Memorial Chapels and Crematory
in the Philippines.
Why did you begin working in funeral
service?
I am a third generation Jose–I belong to a family that has
been in the death-care industry for over 37 years. My
father Raffy, who is the president and CEO of Arlington
Memorial Chapels, has always been a personal hero of
mine. We have always had a special relationship, many
often referring to me as his “mini-me”, or Raffy Jr. I
began taking interest in the business during college.
How many years have you worked in funeral
service?
I have worked at the funeral home for one year now.
What is the most rewarding part of your
occupation?
I’ve always been an empath—I’ve always had the
capacity to feel deeply. This proved to be a challenge
when I first began my work with Arlington. Every time
I met with a client-family, I would feel as if they were
taking a piece of my heart. Eventually, this also became
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the most rewarding part of the job. It was the friendships
formed through my work and the peace I gained each
time I would be able to seemingly lessen the pain and
burden of those left behind by serving them to the best
of my abilities.
Apart from this, I think that it’s also been very rewarding
to be given the trust and opportunity to take on a lot of
new projects that help the company continue to grow
and innovate. I truly appreciate the freedom and leeway
I’m given to explore how the old can meet the new.
What are your professional goals?
Ultimately, it’s my dream to see the company expand.
I’ve personally seen how Arlington’s brand of service
has managed to leave a positive and lasting impact on
its client-families. It would be great to see this level of
service be offered to more of our fellow Filipinos.
I also graduated from a tech-management course, which
encourages me to see how I can further our business
with the upwards trend of e-commerce.
What are you proud of that you have achieved
so far during your career in funeral service?
While I haven’t been working for the company for long,
I joined at a time where the industry was immensely
affected during the first few weeks of the pandemic—I
was overwhelmed with the number of cases that were
coming in on a daily basis. One of the things that
pained me the most as a death-care practitioner was
seeing how families were not given any closure in the
occurrence of a death. All families had were body bags
and identification tags. There were no ceremonies,
tributes and the like – all of which I felt were integral to
the grieving process. I saw how difficult and painful it
was for a grieving family to not be able to say goodbye
to their loved one properly. My frustration over the
situation fueled a desire to find ways to provide comfort
during such an uncertain and anxiety-filled time in
their lives. I decided to launch Arlington’s first ever
umbrella of digital services. These services included
online tribute pages, curated Spotify playlists that
included the favorite music and artists of their loved
one, Zoom links good for nine days where family and
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Bettina with her father Raffy Jose, the president
and CEO of Arlington Memorial Chapels.
friends could come together to pray, share their stories
and find comfort in their support systems, albeit only
virtually, without having to worry about a time limit.
I was particularly proud of this because I saw how it
offered a measure of comfort to the family members
who never got the last hug and the last goodbye that
everybody deserves.
What are some important/notable trends that
you have noticed in funeral service?
We’ve seen a clear spike in families opting for cremation,
most especially when COVID-19 hit.
I’ve also seen that as the decision makers become
younger and younger, it’s become imperative to begin
catering to their manner of doing business. This includes
considering their preference for the use of technology
to make the process more expedient/convenient.
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How has your funeral home been impacted by
COVID-19?
Like many other funeral homes in other parts of the globe
that got overwhelmed with the mass fatalities, there
was also a point where we felt anxious and unsure—we
asked ourselves if we would be able to keep up and take
care of all these families coming into our facility. This
also meant that we had to quickly equip our staff with
the appropriate protective gear, the supply of which
became increasingly scarce as the days went by. As the
situation evolved, we also had to continue adjusting our
safety protocols to make sure that our employees would
not be unnecessarily exposed to the disease.
It was also important to us that we maintained our
unique brand of service despite the many limitations that
COVID-19 came with. It was difficult to do this when
communities weren’t allowed to gather and celebrate
the life of their loved one – it became increasingly
difficult to tell the families that their way of mourning
would now be limited because of this pandemic.
Apart from this, our Arlington family was our main
priority. We wanted to make sure that they had the
support they needed to continue fulfilling their duties
as death-care practitioners. We decided to book rooms
for our staff-members in a hotel near our facility for
their comfort and convenience.
How do you spend your time outside of work?
Is there anything in particular that you enjoy
doing?
I try to balance my time between work, my loved ones
and being a champion for mental health. In 2018, I
founded my own non-profit organization called Spring
Philippines. Spring aims to create a safe space where
mental health is no longer misunderstood or mistreated.
So if I’m not at the office doing overtime, you’ll find me
doing school and company tours, giving talks which
I hope will normalize the conversation about mental
health in the Philippines.
Who or what inspires you?
My parents have always been my standard of how one
should live. They always strived to make this world a
better place for everyone that they encountered. This
has become my life’s mission as well – to do everything
I possibly can to leave this world a better place.
What is your favorite phone app?
Instagram – I just love how dynamic this application
has become. You can pretty much do everything on this
application. Catch up with friends, online shop or even
escape reality hahaha.
What is one thing that you believe your peers
would be surprised to know about you?
Despite my knack for public speaking, I am 86%
introverted on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. I
would choose to stay at home any day. Well, maybe not
so much now because that’s all I’ve been doing for the
past two months! Hahaha
What is one thing that you think is just
“golden” — really wonderful, exciting?
Discovering really good music without even trying. I
think that the power of music is so underrated.
What do you value most about OGR?
I feel really blessed to know that there is a community
that will support me and the company I belong to, in
whatever way they can. When you belong to an industry
like ours, it’s very easy to feel isolated and to feel like
nobody will understand what you’re going through – it’s
very comforting for me to know that with OGR, we are
not alone.
The organization as a whole tries to “follow
the Golden Rule.” What other words do you
try to live by?
Someone once told me that hard work means nothing
without passion. While I’ve used that as a guide for all my
endeavors, I realized that the piece of advice that should
have been given to me was that hard work means nothing
without compassion. I think that in everything I do, I
have found that I find more fulfillment when I know what
it means to me, but more so when I know it could mean
something to somebody else.
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he words felt hollow and wrong as they left my
lips, even after having to repeat them over and
over again throughout the day. No matter how
much I softened my tone, there was no easy way to share
this information. I struggled to adjust to the incongruity
between my instincts to provide reassurance against
the devastating reality I needed to communicate to
these already broken family members. For 16 years I
have answered calls for funeral homes, but I have never
imagined a day might come when I might have to tell
grieving family members that a funeral home can’t
serve them.
Looking back now more than a month later, I still tear up
when I think about answering calls during the peak of
the COVID-19 pandemic. I can still hear the reactions
of grieving family members from me telling them that I
cannot help them. While some would respond with an
onslaught of questions I was unable to answer, others
would react with a sigh of resignation. It wasn’t hard to
tell they had been trying for some time to find someone
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to take care of their loved one without any success.
I think about these families often and the immeasurable
weight of their grief. Losing someone you love is the
most difficult thing we must endure, and to have that
pain multiplied by the COVID-19 pandemic is truly
heartache on another level.
ASD answers calls for funeral homes across the nation,
but during the peak of the COVID-19 pandemic our
answering service handled an influx of calls from New
York City and other hot spots that were at the epicenter
of the virus. Day after day, my heart ached for the
grieving family members forced to call multiple funeral
homes, the hospital or nursing home staff who couldn’t
find anyone to pick up a body, and our clients, the
funeral directors, who were completely overwhelmed.
Many worked around the clock, sleeping in their cars—
if at all, in an effort to respond to the non-stop incursion
of death calls.
When you think about being on the “front lines”, one
usually envisions those who are physically responding
to the pandemic, but there was also an invisible
front line handling the emotional fallout caused by
COVID-19. For ASD Call Specialists, the month of
April was extremely difficult. For a period of time, ASD
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A
The Invisible Front Lines
by Jessica Farren
was handling 1,000 more death calls per day than our
typical average. The most challenging task for most
of us was adjusting our normal reflexes to console
grieving callers with the fact that we could not give any
false assurances or make any promises on behalf of the
funeral home.
This pandemic has proven to be a trying time for all
of us answering calls for funeral homes at ASD. Our
staff was forced to adapt to this extraordinary event in
ways we never could have imagined. One call specialist
described the difficulty of handling a call for a young
woman who lost both her parents and her brother to
COVID-19 within 24 hours. Another recalled having
to take “sobbing breaks” between calls because of how
much they affected her emotionally. While our staff are
accustomed to helping families who have lost a loved
one on a regular basis, the magnitude of tragedy created
by COVID-19 has been truly unfathomable. For those
who do not work in the funeral profession or do not
live in a highly impacted area, it may be difficult to fully
understand the trail of devastation this virus leaves
behind in its wake. For all of us here at ASD, that reality
is painfully clear.
In many articles profiling funeral homes in hot spots like
the Bronx and Brooklyn, directors shared openly how
difficult it was for them to turn away a family in need.
This was the first time in over 100 years our society had
to grapple with issues like a lack of space to store bodies.
This is the first time a surge in deaths caused monthlong
delays at cemeteries and crematories. This is the
first time funeral directors were ever forced to say to a
family, “We are unable to serve you right now.”
ASD call specialists are right there with our clients
because we are often the ones communicating this
information on their behalf, listening to the desperation
of families who were trying to ensure their loved one
was not left in a nursing home or taken to a place like
Hart Island. We heard and felt firsthand the devastating
emotional toll this virus took on bereaved families.
Like our clients, we have struggled to cope with the fact
that we are sometimes unable to provide comfort and
reassurance in the same manner we normally can. The
words we were so accustomed to using when responding
to someone distraught are not available to us. All we
could do during the height of the pandemic was try our
best to convey with our tone and our condolences how
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deeply sorry we were for the unimaginable pain this
virus unfairly inflicted upon them.
As we move further away from those difficult weeks
during the peak of the pandemic, the memory of it
still remains etched in our hearts. Many articles and
editorials have examined how, because so many of the
deaths occurred out-of-sight, our nation has failed to
observe the collective grief and national mourning
associated with mass casualty events. For many, the
lives lost have become just numbers, void of meaning,
and the enormity of the pandemic death toll has not
resonated. This is exacerbated by the fact that we cannot
gather together to mourn our losses, so we are not seeing
displays of shared grief or the outpouring of support.
While the reality may not have set in for many, those of
us who have actually talked to these grieving families
“While our staff are
accustomed to helping
families who have lost a loved
one on a regular basis, the
magnitude of tragedy created
by COVID-19 has been truly
unfathomable .”
feel a weight of responsibility to remind others what has
been lost. For us here at ASD, we will always remember.
It is my belief that it is essential for us all to acknowledge
and grieve these losses. I know there are a lot of debates
going on in our country centered around this pandemic.
However, I do not believe remembering those we have
lost to COVID-19 in any way requires one to take a
side in the culture wars that are happening right now.
We can grieve the human toll of this virus and lament
the economic consequences of the pandemic as well.
Acknowledging one does not subtract from the other.
This notion that you must choose is utterly absurd to
me. Denying the loss of life caused by COVID-19 or
minimizing the tragedy is disrespectful and hurtful to
those families who have already endured so much.
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When I think about how difficult this experience has
been for all of us at ASD and how I still find myself crying
when thinking about those families, I often consider
what it must be like for those funeral directors who lived
through it as well. We must take a moment to consider
the longtime psychological impact this will have on
those in our profession. It seems certain to me that a
good percentage of funeral professionals who were on
the front lines of this pandemic will suffer from PTSD
after the horrors they have witnessed. The experience
of having to go into a crowded trailer filled with bodies
to locate a deceased person, of having to carry out your
job duties while fearing for your own safety, of having to
refuse families you want to help…how do you reconcile
such memories? I feel it is imperative in the days ahead
for our professional community to support these last
responders in any way we can. What they
have endured is truly unimaginable and
yet they never stopped working despite
being traumatized day after day.
I would also argue that the past few
months have been incredibly distressing
for even those funeral professionals who
were not located in hot spots. When your
life’s calling is to provide comfort to those
who are hurting and your work is centered
around providing meaningful funeral
experiences for grieving families, not being
able to fulfill
soul crushing. You can feel this when you
read the quotes from funeral directors
all across the country in articles and news reports.
The COVID-19 restrictions forced just about every
funeral director in America to abandon their personal
philosophies and ignore their natural instincts. Not
being able to embrace or shake hands with families…
having to police gatherings to ensure social distancing
is being observed…limiting the number of people who
can attend services, all of these actions would have been
unthinkable to funeral directors only a few months ago.
Having to adapt to these unique circumstances on both a
personal and professional level has undoubtedly caused
funeral directors a great deal of stress and anguish.
Despite this, so many have responded in unbelievably
creative and inspiring ways. From holding drivethrough
visitations to adopting new technology in order
those duties is absolutely
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to provide live streamed services, the
dedication of funeral directors has truly
been a remarkable thing to witness. I
believe the memory of how those
funeral directors went the extra mile to
do all they could to help families during
this pandemic should be celebrated and
honored in the years to come.
Once things have returned to normal,
there will likely be many lessons that can
be learned from this period in history.
We expect many of the routines and
procedures funeral professionals used
previously will be reevaluated. For us
here at ASD, we plan to explore different
solutions we can implement to provide
added assistance to our clients during
times when they need us the most. We
pray we will not see a pandemic like
this anytime again in the future, but
preparing in advance for such an event
will only make us all stronger going
forward.
Jessica Farren (Fowler) is the Public
Relations Specialist and Staff Writer at
ASD – Answering Service for Directors
where she has answered the calls of
funeral homes nationwide for more
than 16 years. Jessica manages ASD’s
blog and social media presence and has
also contributed articles on a variety of
subjects to funeral trade publications.
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COVID-19
Has Taught
Us About
Aftercare
by Jon Lefrandt
T
here is no question that COVID-19 has forever
changed our lives. Furthermore,
profession has materially changed.
the funeral
In this
article, I’ll discuss the need for aftercare both in general
and specific to this pandemic, and some lessons we’ve
learned as a tech company serving funeral homes and
the funeral profession during this time.
Why aftercare?
I often get asked this question: “Why aftercare?”
Sometimes it is asked by friends and family wondering
how I got my start in the funeral profession. Other
times, by funeral home owners and funeral professionals
asking why they need an aftercare program. No
matter who is asking the question, I begin my
response the same way; with a story from my own life.
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Ten years ago, when I was 25, I lost my father to brain
cancer. He was 46 years old and had seven young
children. During the funeral planning process, I learned
firsthand about the value of funeral service and its
importance for those left behind. I also noticed things
that needed improvement.
Though I didn’t know the term “aftercare” at the time,
I recognized that it was missing from my family’s
experience. After the funeral service, we did not hear
from the funeral home and were left to navigate our grief
alone. I didn’t want others to have to experience a loss
that way, which ended up being the primary motivating
factor that led to my career in the funeral profession.
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“Why Aftercare?” For Families
As I mentioned above, my family did not hear anything
from the funeral home after the service itself. We
were not expecting to hear anything from them, but I
recognize now that it was a missed opportunity.
My father fought cancer for three years. For 36 months,
we had the chance to prepare ourselves for the inevitable
grief and pain we would feel upon losing him. Through
that process, I learned that there is nothing we could
have done to prepare ourselves for that moment when
we eventually lost him. Even with those three years, we
still felt blindsided and like we didn’t know where to
turn for support after the service and our friends and
extended family went back to their day-to-day lives.
My story is not unique. Every day families across
the country lose loved ones, either expectedly or
unexpectedly. In both cases, it is devastating for families
and grief can have a considerable impact. There are over
13 million grievers due to death in the United States
every year.
The role of aftercare is to provide those families you
serve with a metaphorical, yet sometimes literal, lifeline.
A way for families to get their questions answered and
have their needs met.
I recognize that a funeral home isn’t a grief therapy
clinic, and funeral directors aren’t grief therapists, but
they don’t have to be. The simple act of reaching out
to families who have lost a loved one and letting them
know that they are not alone; that others are thinking
about them goes a long way.
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“Why Aftercare?” For Funeral Homes
Even if funeral homes understand that aftercare and
following up with the families they serve is the right
thing to do, it can still go overlooked. Funeral home
staffs are busy, and I understand that the most important
family is the family that is across the table from you.
Quite frankly, many funeral home owners don’t see
aftercare as a worthwhile investment. They might think
that because the family chose their funeral home today,
they will always choose their funeral home.
We know that is not the case. Families are more transient
than ever, moving more than 11 times on average during
their lifetimes. That movement, combined with more
competition, can make it difficult for funeral homes
to expand their market share or even hold on to their
existing market footprint.
Aftercare that drives at-need is the most worthwhile for
funeral homes. While metrics like “brand loyalty” are
absolute byproducts of a successful aftercare program,
they can be hard to quantify and measure a return on
investment.
That is why funeral homes need to incorporate a Google
review strategy into their aftercare program. We know
that over 90% of consumers today read online reviews
when considering a purchasing decision, including
funeral service. Even more staggering is the fact that
over 97% of those that do read online reviews trust
them as much as recommendations from friends and
families.
Over 2,500 people per month turn to Google and search
for the phrase “funeral home near me.” That means that
2,500 at-need cases are essentially up for grabs every
month. A family that is new to your area or who doesn’t
“The role of aftercare is to provide those
families you serve with a metaphorical,
yet sometimes literal, lifeline.”
have a relationship with a funeral home depends on
tools like Google and reviews from others to help them
make their funeral purchasing decision.
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• More than 2500 people
Google “funeral home near
me” every month
• More than 90% of
consumers read online
reviews
• 97% of those trust the
reviews as much as
recommendations from
family and friends
The fastest and easiest way to improve at-need call
volume is to improve your funeral home’s Google
review rating. It is always a highlight of my day when
funeral home owners call or text me saying they just had
another family choose them over a competitor because
of the strength of their review profile.
Lessons from COVID-19
There is no question that the COVID-19 pandemic
has caused the funeral industry, and every industry,
for that matter, to take a hard look at itself and the way
it does business. We’ve seen companies like Zoom, the
videoconferencing company, more than double their
share price, and we’ve seen others like retail giant J.
Crew declare bankruptcy due to the pandemic.\We’ve
learned companies, funeral homes included, that fail to
adapt to this new way of doing business will not succeed
in a post-COVID-19 world.
These changes include how aftercare is done. Many
funeral homes have aftercare groups that meet in their
facilities or have grief counselors that visit with families
in their homes. This pandemic has put a halt to those
types of programs. But it’s also further emphasized the
need for aftercare.
Families who have lost loved ones during this pandemic
haven’t been able to have the gathering and support
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that my family experienced or that they would have
otherwise experienced if not for this global pandemic.
Text messaging has emerged as the perfect medium
through which to conduct an aftercare program during
COVID-19. The personal nature of text messages
combined with its 98% open rate, ensures that families
are seeing the messages of support and comfort from
funeral homes during a time of social isolation.
One example: our Domanicare aftercare messages
regularly see a 51% response rate. That number has
increased in recent weeks as we are seeing more families
looking for someone to talk to and express their feelings
during this uniquely trying time.
Funeral service as a category has remained mostly
unchanged for decades. It has been driven by
relationships and connections, with those relationships
and connections happening mainly in
person. With gatherings limited and
many of the core tenants of funeral
service disrupted, funeral homes must
look for ways to provide value outside of
the funeral home walls.
For example, 40% of consumers expect
live streaming of services will and should
be available permanently. Interestingly,
only 21% are willing to pay for that
additional
service. More people also
express that the importance of attending
a funeral in person has decreased.
I believe in funeral service, and I know
that we will rally together for the
benefit of the families we serve and the
profession as a whole. These are truly
unprecedented times, but as funeral
homes look to meet the needs of the
families they serve, opportunities will
arise to provide more value and more
meaningful connection, which, in the
end, is what is best for everyone.
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Jon Lefrandt is the CEO and co-founder
of Domanicare, one of OGR’s Endorsed
Suppliers and an innovative and awardwinning
text-messaging based aftercare
program. Jon created Domanicare after
experiencing crippling grief first-hand.
After that experience, he decided to do
something about the gap that has existed
between funeral homes and aftercare
families for years. To connect with Jon,
call him at 801-615-5039 or email him at
jon@thedomanigroup.com.
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APASI’s Guaranteed Travel
Assurance Plan: A Perfect and
Profitable Preneed Partnership
By Andrew Pavela
The American Pre-Arrangement Services, Inc., better
known as APASI, Guaranteed Travel Assurance Plan is
truly a product the families you serve deserve to know
about. It’s affordable, comprehensive, guaranteed, and in
comparison to the costs families might incur if a loved
one dies while away from home, it’s an incredible value.
Plus, it is easy to add this profit booster onto any prearrangements
you make. This travel plan makes sense
for anyone who still travels, who visits family or friends,
or spends part of the year away in a warmer climate.
During the course of the conversation should they
mention out of town travel or visits, or you ask them
directly if they ever go more than 75 miles away from
home, then the next suggestion should be for them to
consider purchasing a Travel Plan.
As an example,
a few years back,
a married couple
was offered an
APASI travel
pl an during
t heir pr ea
r rangement
meeting. The
husband was
s e ven ye a r s
younger than the wife and didn’t think he needed it,
although she bought a plan. Unfortunately, he died in
Florence, Italy during their second honeymoon trip.
It cost the family nearly $10,000 to bring him back to
Illinois.
It is easy to add this profit booster onto
any pre-arrangements you make.
Agents should not assume someone does not need it
or cannot afford it. When an Agent does not offer it,
they are making a financial decision not only for their
client, but for their clients’ loved ones, who are going
to be on the hook for the expenses. While transporting
human remains internationally can easily cost families
thousands,
even domestic
transport
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is
expensive.
Ground transportation alone averages $4.00 per mile.
Most funeral homes have only dealt
with a few cases out of their county,
out-of-state, or even out-of-thecountry,
so they are usually not
familiar with the return process.
Depending on the place of death, it
could involve repatriation assistance,
finding a translator, securing legal or
estate services, scheduling flights and
partnering with a funeral home at the place of death. At
APASI, this is what we do every day. We take care of the
details and let you take care of the family left behind.
When people hear the terms “Travel Assurance” or
“Travel Plan” they probably think about coverage they
would purchase before a vacation, cruise, or flight. They
do not think about what could happen when they travel
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near their home. In many cases, APASI’s members die
less than 500 miles from their homes and the Travel
Plan covers deaths occurring just 75 miles from home.
People travel 75 or more miles from home for many
more reasons than for vacation. According to the U.S.
Bureau of Transportation Statistics, Americans travel
11 billion miles each day just traveling from one point
to another. In addition to traveling for shopping,
dining, visiting friends and family, or for business, tens
of thousands of people travel more than 75 miles for
specialized medical care.
How We Are Different
Unlike other travel plans, the APASI Guaranteed Travel
Assurance Plan covers deaths at medical facilities, even
while out of the country. Our competitors will not cover
a member if they have traveled out of the country for a
medical procedure.
Additionally, APASI’s plan covers a member for up to 180
consecutive days away from home. This is particularly
relevant in today’s pandemic situation, where people
have found themselves sheltering in place with family
or friends instead of in their own homes.
Our members pay a one-time fee, and they are covered
for life. Unlike other travel plans, our plan is backed by
a unique insurance policy written especially for APASI
by a large insurance company. This protects every single
member. We want our members to be comfortable and
secure in their plan for life.
APASI offers a guaranteed lifetime membership above
and beyond other Travel Assurance Plans. APASI’s
450,000 members enjoy coverage that includes exclusive
benefits, and priceless peace of mind whenever and
wherever they travel.
Travel Plans and Preneed Sales Support
When a person starts the funeral pre-arrangement
process, they’re focused on one thing: preparing for
their death. They’re tying up every potential loose end
so their families won’t have to struggle financially or
scramble to make decisions at an already difficult time.
These are the very same reasons our preneed partners
need to offer APASI’s comprehensive Travel Plan
Membership — and why the preneed arrangement
meeting is the perfect time to offer it to the clients you
are meeting with. If the unthinkable happens when
your client is away from home, APASI will carefully and
lovingly manage every step in the tedious process of
bringing a member home.
APASI does not sell their
travel plans
directly to
consumers. Instead, we work primarily with agents
who sell our Travel Assurance Plans and we routinely
forward calls from consumers to one of our partners.
Recently, APASI streamlined and simplified our process
for agents to get started offering our plans. In addition
to thorough virtual training for agents, APASI provides
printed materials, displays, and videos to help market
and educate clients on the benefits of a travel plan.
Producers also receive generous incentives for selling,
APASI’s, Travel Assurance Plan Membership.
Comparing Costs
The biggest benefit for members may be the amount of
money they will save if the unthinkable happens while
they are away. Often, though, it is that “unthinkable”
aspect that keeps a person from buying a travel plan.
Most funeral homes and preneed companies charge
around $450 for a lifetime membership in the APASI
travel plan and unlike other travel plans, APASI’s
members’ coverage is guaranteed. Your funeral home or
preneed companies sets the price you want to charge and
then just pays APASI a portion to secure the coverage.
The remainder remains with your funeral home.
Since 2004, we have saved our members’ families,
approximately $8 million and countless hours of stress,
due to the fact the member had a Guaranteed Travel
Assurance Plan in place from APASI.
Andrew Pavela is the Vice President
of Sales and Marketing at APASI.
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Funeral Homes Get Creative and
Offer Drive-Thru/Drive-In Services
In light of recent social distancing protocols, Kolssak
Funeral Home in Wheeling, IL started offering private,
‘drive-thru’ style visitations at their firm. The facility and
property are uniquely positioned so friends and families
can remain in their vehicles and drive through to view
the deceased and pay respects to the family. Kolssak has
had a handful of families take advantage of this service.
Meanwhile, in Shawnee, OK, Cooper Funeral Home
hosted a service for a local veteran at a nearby bowling
alley. The deceased spent a lot of his time bowling, so
Cooper worked with the bowling alley to host the drivein
funeral.
Lakeside Memorial
Funeral Home Moves
Grief Support Online
In an effort to continue serving grieving families.
Lakeside Memorial Funeral Home in Hamburg,
NY moved their in-person grief support groups to
Zoom, renaming them “A Virtual Coffee Hour”. The
funeral home partners with a local counselor to facilitate
the gathering and help those who are feeling especially
isolated and grief stricken during the pandemic.
Evan J. Strong Funeral
Home Sponsors Grief
Webinar
The funeral home, located in Calgary, AB, sponsored a
webinar, And Along Came COVID-19…Healing Grief
During a Pandemic, led by registered psychologist,
Maureen Theberge.
If you have news you’d like featured in upcoming issues of The Independent, email Adeline Border at aborder@ogr.org.
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Members Interviewed by News
Stations during COVID-19 Pandemic
Jakubs and Son Funeral Home in Cleveland, OH was
featured on their local news station, sharing about the
impact COVID-19 has had on how people grieve loved
ones. Jackie McQuade of Schuyler Hill Funeral Home
in the Bronx, NY was featured on the Tamron Hall Show
as she shared how the death toll of the pandemic has
overwhelmed their family funeral home more than the
9/11 terrorist attacks did in 2001. Geraldine Oliverie of
Oliverie Funeral Home in Manchester, NJ and Michael
Kulbacki of Brunswick Memorial Funeral Home in
East Brunswick, NJ were interviewed by a local news
station on how New Jersey funeral homes are helping
people mourn during the COVID-19 crisis.
OGR Family Contact Program
As funeral directors are forced to change the way they do business amid the
pandemic, feedback from the families you serve is more important than ever.
OGR’s staff would like to apologize for the delay in reporting from the Family
Contact Program caused by our move to Indianapolis, but we are happy to
announce everything is back on schedule and you should receive your June
report shortly.
We thank you for your patience during this time of transition.
As a reminder, you can get your funeral home’s reports even faster by encouraging
your families to fill out the form online instead of using the paper form. Contact
Alyssa Castille, OGR’s new Family Contact Program manager, at acastille@ogr.
org to get your funeral home’s custom link.
If you’ve never enrolled in the
program, it’s a tremendous
benefit for any funeral home and
is FREE for all OGR members.
Find out more on our website at
OGR.org/Family-Contact.
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Johnson Consulting Group Promotes
Roberge to Senior Business Consultant
Johnson Consulting Group promoted Vince Roberge
to Senior Business Consultant in June. Roberge joined
the company in March 2019 working on their customer
experience focus for funeral home and cemetery clients.
Roberge is a Certified Funeral Celebrant with a license
in mortuary science and degree in economics, and
has previously worked in location management and
leadership operations.
“Vince has been a major contributor in the development
of our signature Business Consulting Services as well as
monthly client meetings,” said Nelson Thulin, director
Iverson Joins
Messenger Sales
Team
Messenger appointed
Christopher Iverson
as sales consultant for
southern California,
Arizona, and Hawaii in
May. He has 22 years of
experience as a licensed
funeral director and
crematory manager.
Iverson retired in 2014
but rejoined the industry
a few years later, working
in mortuaries for a time
before moving to Messenger’s sales team.
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of business consulting. “Vince has consistently provided
insight and support to all departments and leadership
within JCG and has done so at an exceedingly high
level.”
In his new role as Senior Business Consultant, Roberge
will work directly with Johnson Consulting Group
clients and provide a wide variety of consulting
services including performance management, strategic
planning, and leadership development. He will also
assist in managing the company’s ever-increasing
vendor partnerships.
Veterans Funeral
Care Opens Second
Clearwater Location
OGR member Jim Rudolph
purchased a new location for
his funeral home just as the
coronavirus pandemic began.
Even with the safety restrictions
that made the
remodel and
move more difficult, Jim and
his staff were able to open the
funeral home on schedule. The
second location is a full-service
funeral home that serves every
member of the Tampa Bay
community and incorporates
the veteran’s branding throughout the building, starting
with the Marine Corps 5-ton truck parked in front of
the funeral home.
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Remembering Family and Friends
Patrick Joseph Strong
May 1, 1937 – April 19, 2020
Father of OGR Member Evan J. Strong
Evan J. Strong Funeral Services
Calgary, AB
John “Jack” Bartlett Brust
1928 – April 27, 2019
OGR Member
Founder of Brust Funeral Home
Lombard, IL
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8Member SpotlightA
OGR Spotlight on Singleton Funeral &
Cremation Services, P.A.
Member Pam Hovatter shared her experiences with
running a successful funeral home.
Tell me a little about how your funeral home
was founded and how it operates today.
Singleton Funeral Home was founded in 1932 by
Thomas W. Singleton. Today, the staff of Singleton
Funeral & Cremation Services continues to show their
distinction as one of the most respected funeral homes
in North Anne Arundel County, Maryland. We strive to
provide personalized and unique
services that truly memorialize
your loved one. We are committed
to providing dignified and quality
services to individuals of all faiths
and ethnicities.
Why do you believe
a funeral service is
important?
In any society there is a need of
someone to care for the dead. No
matter your beliefs, there is going
to be someone to guide, assist and
care for the deceased and their
family. It’s an essential profession
no matter where you live or your
culture and it’s our calling.
What do you believe distinguishes your
funeral home from other funeral homes?
Our caring and professional staff has always been a
cornerstone in the way we operate our funeral home.
Being progressive and sensitive to the needs in our
community is another aspect of our funeral home.
What does your funeral home do in order to
create a strong community presence? Do you
believe that is important?
Thomas W. Singleton, founder
What is the most rewarding
part of working in the funeral service
industry?
Being able
We continue to support our
local community organizations,
through volunteering, donations,
and interaction. It’s certainly a
presence that is needed in order
to make a difference. We host
a service of remembrance once
a year for our families, we also
have an adjoining building we
allow families to use for their
after-service luncheon. We can
help them with catering or they
can bring their own food. We
can also use it for services, or it is
rented to people for events other
than funerals, such as showers,
birthday parties, etc.
In what ways do you use
technology to further the service you offer?
to help people. Guiding and walking
with them through the loss and being able to make a
comforting difference in their lives is what it’s all about.
We offer online obituaries with an up-to-date website.
We create memorial slide presentations to be played
during visitations and are also put on our website. The
funeral home is completely WiFi compatible with free
access to all. We utilize Spotify for our music needs and
Zoom for web hosting events.
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What growing trends have you noticed in the
funeral service industry? In what ways have
you tried to keep up with these changes?
Society in general has gone more digital in the way we
communicate with each other and businesses. We’ve
kept up with the times through Facebook, Docusign,
Zoom, Tukios and other available outlets in order to
ease the family from additional burdens and stress.
How has your funeral home pivoted to serve
families during the COVID-19 pandemic?
Like most funeral homes currently, we’ve had to shift
the way we operate. Most interaction with the families
we serve are now done remotely by phone, email, and/
or Zoom. One of the challenges we have to face is the
limit of guests / family members allowed in the funeral
home is only 10 people. So we created another option for
families to be able to pay their respects to the deceased
by offering a drive-by viewing window, which was
specially designed and created by one our employees
and allows cars to freely drive up to the casket and
family behind the glass. This allows family and friends,
no matter the number, to be able to say goodbye to the
deceased and a way to show support to the family all
while social distancing themselves.
What do you value most about OGR? Why did
you become a member?
I love the close knit aspect of the members and their
support of each other. When you attend the events,
you’re able to network and share ideas with the group.
Offering new ideas and a fresh perspective to concerns
you might be dealing with back at your own funeral
home.
Is there anything in particular that you do at
work to keep your spirits high or the spirits of
your staff high?
We try to keep a healthy and positive work environment
for the staff. You don’t want to burn them out especially
during these stressful times, so they get time off, are
provided free lunch and other employee perks, and are
able to interact with management freely.
What are three future goals you have in mind
for your funeral home?
Being able to transition from our current State and Local
restrictions of COVID-19 to a less restrictive situation
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Singleton Funeral & Cremation Services staff
will be our primary focus.
We’re all looking forward to
being able to allow family
and friends back into the
funeral home for viewings
and services.
It may not
look like it has in the past,
but I hope it will meet the
needs of our community
and the families we serve.
Anything else you
would like to share
about your funeral
home?
We have a Grief Therapy
dog, named Hope that is
also a special part of what
we do.
Hope, the Grief Therapy dog
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These select Above & Beyond comments are about members
who have received outstanding comments on Family Contact
surveys for providing exemplary service and going above &
beyond expected service levels. These members are now eligible
for the Exemplary Service Award.
Montgomery & Steward Funeral Directors,
Inc., Pueblo, California
The staff at Montgomery & Steward Funeral were very
helpful during such a difficult time. I did not have to
worry about a thing, they handled every detail perfectly.
I would highly recommend them to others. The funeral
director could not have been more helpful and made
such a good impression on me and my family. He was
always available to answer any questions I had. He was
very knowledgeable, compassionate, and made me
feel that he had all the time in the world to work with
me on every detail. Montgomery & Steward went above
and beyond to honor my family and gave my mom
(deceased) great dignity and class. I received so many
comments on how well everything was done. I would
not change a thing. My mother’s funeral was a beautiful
tribute to her, because of all the attention to details.
Several people came up to me after the service and said
that they will be making funeral arrangements at this
funeral home. Very impressed!
Davenport Family Funeral Home and
Crematory,
Crystal Lake, Illinois
When I first called Davenport Family Funeral Home
and Crematory, Katie was the one who answered the
phone and she was so calm and helpful to me. Peggy
came to pick up my mom (deceased) and was patient
and waited over an hour for my sister to be able to see
my mom before they took her away. Peggy made us
feel comfortable and was very helpful in explaining
everything to us during our first meeting. She did a
great job at being available to answer calls or questions
after we met. I had so many people comment on how
beautiful my mom looked and how nice the funeral
Above
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FAMILY CONTACT
THE GOLDEN RULE
& Beyond
home felt. So many thanks to Bridget, Nancy, Bob, and
Kelly for being there during the wake. Kelly, thank you
for bringing mom to her resting place in Wisconsin on
one of the snowiest, coldest days of the year. I know
my mom would have been very impressed with how
Davenport Family Funeral Home handled everything.
Thank you to all for making such a sad time in our lives
feel so beautiful and comforting to us.
Plummer Funeral Services, Inc., Litchfield,
Illinois
The staff at Plummer Funeral Services are very
compassionate and caring. They ensured that our
family was treated with respect and that every detail of
the funeral was accomplished to perfection. I met Terry
Plummer (funeral director) when he came to pick up
my mom (deceased). He was so helpful and personally
took one of my family members to the funeral home
for the service. This meant a lot to me to see he cared
and showed such compassion. I knew my mom was in
the best hands! Terry Plummer communicated with me
many times before and since the funeral to ensure that
I am personally doing ok. The funeral home presented
my mom beautifully. I was very pleased and proud of
the funeral arrangements and I know my mom was
“happy” on her “final day.” Nothing else could have been
done differently. The staff made sure every detail was
carried through excellently. Plummer Funeral Services
is the best!
Heafy-Hoffman-Dworak-Cutler Mortuaries,
Omaha, Nebraska
The
staff
at
Heafy-Hoffman-Dworak-Cutler
Mortuaries provided outstanding service. They all showed
kindness, compassion, and prompt replies to our needs.
They were flexible to all our special requests and kept
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us informed, including timing of the actual cremation
so we could pray during the process. Bill Cutler was the
most kind, professional & responsive funeral director
we could have asked for. We trust him completely. He
gave extra attention to details of our loved one’s remains
and made sure everything was done right. He helped our
family get through the process of funeral arrangements
and helped our loved one find peace. The staff did a
great job making sure details like engraving, flowers,
and printed materials were done perfectly. They always
checked and verified our requests to help us and make
sure we would be pleased with the outcome. We are so
grateful for how beautiful and well done everything was.
Freitag Funeral Home, Bridgeton, New Jersey
I was so overwhelmed with everything I had to do
during such a difficult time in my life. That was, until
I walked into Freitag Funeral Home. The staff was
supportive, compassionate, and really eased all the
overwhelming feelings I had. They instantly made me
feel calm and put my mind at ease. Mr. Freitag and staff
went over everything in detail with me. I felt comforted
and was treated with such respect. They went above and
beyond for me and I appreciated their time and effort.
The service was absolutely perfect. The advice I received
helped so much and I am so glad I chose the service I
did. Every aspect of the service was done in a respectful
matter and the attention to detail was impeccable. I truly
would not do anything differently. I felt completely at
peace with what I chose. It was the best way to have the
final goodbye. I could not have gone through it without
the help and support of the staff.
The Family Contact Program is a FREE member benefit
that is simple to use and offers valuable information on
your funeral home’s operations, services and staff through
surveying families you’ve served. Join OGR’s Family
Contact Program today and you could be one of next year’s
Exemplary Service Award winners. For more information
or to sign up, visit www.ogr.org/family-contact-program
or contact us by email at familycontact@ogr.org or
800-637-8030.
Celebrating Milestone Anniversaries
— July, August, & September —
60 years | August 1960
McIntire, Bradham &
Sleek Funeral Home
Wooster, OH
45 years | August 1975
Schilling Funeral Home
Sterling, IL
55 years | August 1965
Bunker Family Funeral
Service & Cremation
Mesa, AZ
35 years | July 1985
Dryer Funeral Home, Inc.
Holly, MI
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35 years | August 1985
Patton Funeral
Home-Brownsville Chapel
Brownsville, KY
35 years | September 1985
Wages & Sons Funeral Home
Lawrenceville, GA
30 years | July 1990
Lea Funeral Home
Raleigh, NC
25 years | August 1995
Mothe Funeral Homes, LLC
New Orleans, LA
20 years | July 2000
Hines Funeral Home, Inc.
Hartsville, SC
15 years | August 2005
Crawford-Osthus
Funeral Chapel, LLC
Watertown, SD
5 years | August 2015
Walker Life Celebration Center
Cincinnati, OH
35 years | August 1985
Allen-Beyer Funeral Home
Key Largo, FL
30 years | July 1990
Pomeroy Funeral Home, Inc.
Croswell, MI
25 years | July 1995
El Senorial Funeral Home
Willemstad, Curacao
20 years | July 2000
Lewis Funeral Home, Inc.
Milton, FL
15 years | July 2005
Jenkins Funeral Chapel, Inc.
Westlake, OH
5 years | July 2015
Lesotho Funeral
Services, Ltd.
Maseru, Lesotho
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